(Closed) A few points from the viewpoint of a guest

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

All good points! Sorry you had such a bad experiece but thanks for sharing and reminding us that couples need to consider the comfort of their guests when they are planning the events!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ouch. That is stank

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Good points. I can’t imagine anyone thought it would be okay to charge guests for water! Even restaurants give that for free!

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Woooow thats terrible!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Another classic case of “My Day Syndrome” with no regard to the comfort of their guests who came to see them get married. Sounds like this couple has very poor manners. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with the water thing…that’s just bizarre. Also it’s very odd that you didn’t know where to go for the reception venue!

However, I think the rest is a little harsh! I’m sorry you were hungry, but the day is about the bride and groom and sometimes things run over and get delayed. Maybe the budget didn’t allow for snacks too.

I’ve never been thanked for a gift at a wedding I attended…that’s what thank you cards are for! I’m sure you’ll get one!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

That’s petty bad when they can’t even supply water. What did the invitations say? Just come to the ceremony and we’ll let you know? How bizarre.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ticatica: If the bride and groom want the day to be all about them then they should elope. The minute you invite people it ceases to be all about them and it becomes about guests as they are now HOSTING an event. I think we need a sticky on the top of the board defining what host means as some Bees seems to be forgetting. If you don’t care to properly inform, feed and um water your guests then don’t have guests. easy peasy. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

wow….im sorry you had to sit through that. It sounds like a mess. I would have prob left after dinner…..sorry i have no patience for rudeness.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mixtapehearts:  

Give you water, sure. Although I would probably have some money with me all the same.

Tell you where you’re going, definitely. However, if you turned up and they themselves were stuck outside the venue waiting to be let in….it sounds like they were already having problems themselves.

I would just hope that if I hosted an event and things went wrong, that my guests would be understanding. Not berate me for it!

And yes, the day is about guests too, but mostly about those celebrating their marriage.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ah I see, you got an invitation not mentioning your gift. Yeah, that’s very rude. And like i said, I agree with the water. I’m surprised soft drinks weren’t provided.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Ouch, I’m so sorry! Every point you’ve made is something we are both adament about making sure does not happen. I want my guests to have no want for food or drink, and I also am only looking at venues where the ceremony/reception can be done all in one so there isn’t any waiting around to be done by the guests. I’ve been to only a handful of weddings, but I remember how annoying waiting around for the pictures to finish, etc. is!

I especially loathe the idea of a cash only bar – how ridiculous! If you can’t afford alcohol, then just don’t provide it. I’d much rather attend a dry wedding where I can have plenty of water than have to pay for every single drop. It’s a ridiculously rude practice that needs to go away. Guests should not be expected to carry cash! At the very least if you insist on a cash bar, put it in the invitation so people know what to expect.

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