- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
At approximately 10:10 am, my grandmother passed away peacefully. I was called by the hospice nurse about 15 minutes before, and asked if they could put the phone to her ear as she was still awake, but becoming hypoxic. I’d planned to go this weekend again, but I didn’t get to make it there in time. They called me with minutes left as I was driving out the door from the outpatient clinic. I had so hoped I could have made it in time. She was with two loving nurses who were holding her hands and my sister had spent several hours with her last night but was only a few streets away, also driving to get there and missed her.
Thank you so much for all your prayers and good thoughts sent to her and to me, and I thank you because I was blessed with the chance to say the last words to her, albeit long distance and on the phone. I could hear her trying to breathe when I was on the phone, but I was granted enough time to say everything on my heart to her (yet again) and tell her that she was the most amazing woman in the world to me, how my sister and I and our children loved her so, and that she was the greatest role model I could have ever had. I also told her that I’ll raise my son in the same way she helped raise my sister and I.
I’m almost numb typing this, as I’ve already talked to my sister, T, my brother in law and everybody else. My grandfather is in the hospital right now, he’s been there for a day or so and is in chf. As of 30 minutes ago, the minister from my sis’ church has been there with him and he is finding out. They were life partners for 70 years and the only thing I’m worried about it him right now. He wasn’t there to say goodbye. I am hurting for that. And worried for him. His name is Ray, so do keep him in your prayers and thoughts today. He’s lost his life partner.
If possible, please say a prayer or a good thought for my grandfather, as we’re really worried about him.
There is so much on my heart I’d like to say to everybody here too. Words cannot ever express how grateful I’ve been for your prayers for her, good thoughts, and outpouring of love for her and my grandfather. You are all so very wonderful and I just have to say thank you so very much.
Although I knew this was coming, it still is very very hard. I just walked in from the car a while ago, and it’s a strange day here in GA. It’s sunny, yet there are snowflakes flying around here in north ga. I got out of my suv, just stood out in front of my house, and stood into the wind, and imagined her on the wind just flying away. She’s not sick anymore. There’s no more pain. She’s with her mother, my father, and the grandkids she never met as my sister lost two babies in her second trimester. That gives us peace knowing she’s there with them.
I am so very blessed to have had the privilege of being given this woman as my grandmother. We were truly blessed. I’ll be going home when the plans are made, back to Memphis soon. When my heart is a bit lighter in a few days, I will post here in her memory, her famous recipe for coca cola cupcakes. I want as many people as possible to experience just a little of the beautiful person she was/is.
Rest in peace Dorothy Virginia Hart Haynes.