(Closed) A Fool Proof RSVP card?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We skipped the M line and just put Name(s), hoping that people would write their names….not sure how it will turn out, my invitations are getting put together this weekend, to send out September 1st. I numbered mine just incase. 

Post # 4
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

only potential issue i can see with that is what if you are inviting two people and only one of them is coming….

Post # 5
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We just got some RSVP’s back and so far they have all been filled in correctly. Ours reads:

blah blah blah


___ of ____ (2nd line already filled in by me) will attend

_____ will not attend

Then lists off the food.

I would maybe think of better wording then Are you Coming, maybe Yes, ___ will attend? Good luck!

Post # 7
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Foolproof RSVPs don’t exist. We did the ___ seats have been reserved in your honor, “names” instead of “M”, etc. People still wrote their uninvited children/unknown girlfriend/random dates in. You’re on the right track, but basically, some people will be clueless no matter how clear you are. Don’t kill yoursef over it ;-).

Post # 8
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We did online RSVPs.  NotFroofy set it up so that the person entered a code, and a screen popped up that had the names of all people invited on that invitation, and checkboxes for whether they were coming, what meal they wanted, etc.

Post # 9
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

we did 


___ seats have been reserved for your party (# already filled in)


____ Can’t wait to party!

____ Sorry to miss the fun.


We still had people confused because they were not sure if when we invite them with one seat reserved for their party if that meant THEM with ONE OTHER person. good grief. you can not win.

Post # 10
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I did not have any extra people show up on my RSVP cards (although my cousin called and asked if she could bring a friend).  What I did was write in the names of the people on the M_______ line.  If only one was coming, they wrote a note on the card.

Post # 11
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i used a similar method for fool-proofing and yet …. still received at least 3 back with no names on them, several cards with “accepts” marked but they never filled out meal choice and then like every other bride had quite a few people never respond.  no matter how you word it, there will be a few problems of some sort.

Post # 12
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We did


__ of __ attending*

The second short line was filled in. So if someone had been invited with a guest but chose to come alone it’d be 1 of 2 attending.

We also numbered the back of the rsvp card tp track.

using Names instead of the M____ seems to work better because I found, and my Future Sister-In-Law is figuring out, that a lot of people are not writing in their names. And there are a LOT of people with the same last name, that aren’t specifying their first names.

Post # 13
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ours said:

__Can’t wait  __Can’t come

Who’s attending?

________________________ Chicken ___ Pork ___

________________________ Chicken ___ Pork ___

________________________ Chicken ___ Pork ___

________________________ Chicken ___ Pork ___


Pre-addressed, stamped post cards.

The only problem is we’re afraid people won’t put a name if they’re not coming, haha. So we numbered them.

Post # 14
140 posts
Blushing bee

we did:

__ accept                       __ decline

Name: __________________ | ___ Beef  ___ Chicken ___ Kid’s Meal


For the name+entree selection, we custom printed each RSVP.  An invitation addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. X” would have an RSVP with 2 name+entree selection lines, while an invitation to “The Y family” that had 2 kids would have  an RSVP with 4 name+entree selection lines.   Then we stuck address labels on the back of the RSVP envelopes for people who forget to write their names down. 

Post # 15
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think we’re doing something along these lines:

Please check all that apply:


      __ Pre-filled name

      __ Pre-filled name

      __ Pre-filled name

will be there for sure!


__ Sorry, can’t come


But our celebration will be pretty intimate so it’s no hassle to custom-print each RSVP (we’re just running them off our printer). I”m hoping this will be straightforward enough for folks.

Post # 16
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

just ordered ours and they’ll look something like this:



___accepts with pleasure

    number attending___

___declines with regret


I feel like people never know what to do with the M___ and luckily i had a younger girl helping me with my invites and she said she always suggests putting “Name” instead of “M” and was totally on board with me asking for the number attending – that way – no surprises!!!! 

Plus we dont have a meal selection on our response card so we had more room to play with – our venue offers table side ordering so that saved us another headache!!

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