Post # 1
I’m trying to decide between a plated, action station, or buffet. Out of those three I’m torn more between plated and buffet. I know that plated is the most formal, and that a buffet is the least formal or more casual. I really really like the idea of a buffet and both me and my boyfriend are foodies. We are always eating and like different types of food and each come from multi-cultural backgrounds.
On the other hand, I want my wedding to come off as formal. My ceremony is religious and in a chapel.My boyfriend said that he is used to plated meals at weddings, and says it is nicer. Can’t I have a nice buffet? I even found gold trays online that I can give each guest for going down the line….
Post # 2
Our wedding is considered more “formal” and we’re having a buffet. It was a way for us to save money, as plated was more expensive. I also like the buffet option because people can pick and choose what they want, instead of getting a limited amount of something they like/dislike. I guess the way I look at it is, if its good food, who cares how it’s served?
Post # 3
I prefer buffet style food. I’ve never had a good plated meal served at a wedding but I’ve had some awesome buffet food. I also like to eat and love sampling lots of different types of food. How many people are attending your wedding? The only downside I see to buffet style is having to wait in line if you have many guests. Another option in between the two is “family style” where each table is served plates they can then self serve.
Post # 4
Personally I prefer a buffet meal. I find that often plated meals give me too much food and I end up wasting too much food. I also think that a buffet is much better for picky eaters!
Post # 5
no, you can’t. Any time people have to serve their own food, wait in line, and have to balance carrying their own food, it takes away from the formalness of the event. I love buffets, but not for formal weddings.
Post # 6
A compromise if available would be family style. Then guests do not have to get up, keeping it more formal but allows them a variety of choice and portions.
Post # 7
I personally find plated meals to be far more formal.
That being said, I think guests are way less likey to talk about how the food was served and way more likely to talk about the quality of the food. I would make your main priority the quality of the food that you’re serving, and I’d prefer a delicious buffet to a mediocre plated meal.
But if the quality of the food is the same and you’re having a formal wedding, I would opt for the plated meal.
Also, being a foodie doesn’t preclude you from a plated meal! You can definitely have a delicious and inventive plated meal.
Post # 9
I’ve been to many weddings, formal balls, and other formal events where the meal was served buffet style and I find nothing wrong with it. Usually the food is hotter plus it gives people the option to choose for themselves what they want on their plate. We had buffet at our wedding reception and guests loved it since we had various options for them to choose from. If you go buffet style, I wouldn’t worry about it taking away from the formality of the event.
Post # 10
Plated, all the way. Not a fan of buffets at weddings unless its a super casual laid back affair. And even then I wouldn’t have one myself.
If you’re foodies, why not spend some more on the cocktail hour appeitzers and add some more variety there. Gives you a lot more room to play with cuisines and whatnot!
Post # 11
Is there a price difference? Ours is the same for both (buffet or plated) so we are going with plated. Our venue let us do two different options (3rd with a kids menu) and with got different potatoes with each one. Fish gets gouda hashbrowns, steak gets white cheddar potatoes. We definitely will be trying out each others.
How many kids are invited? Eldery adults with issues walking? Have to think of the things that can happen with a buffet. People trip and fall, possible option of germ spreading, etc. Seated dinners are a bit more difficult work wise with getting people’s choices, placecards, yada yada but it could benefit you in the long run.
Post # 12
Go buffet… as others said, plated just wastes food when you’re served something you don’t want to eat. Plus it’s colder when it arrives because it can’t get served as fast as it is plated. I have never seen any problems with kids, the elderly, etc regarding buffets (as was mentioned above) – that just seems a touch paranoid. The only downside I’ve seen at a buffet was having a long wait, but when certain tables are called at a time, it appears to go far more smoothly.
Post # 13
For foodies I struggle to think how a buffet fits that. I find buffets to have uneven distribution of “good” toppings, uneven temperature, and much worse presentation. That is in addition to the serving issues.
I’ve never had a buffet at a wedding that was formal or delicious. Now maybe that’s a short coming of those weddings, but it is IMO not formal.
Post # 14
I like the look of a sit down dinner- but for some reason the food is always sub par- and I’ve been to some high end weddings where I would expect very good food- but the food is always just “ok”. I’ve just come to accept that wedding venue food is never going to out of this world, it’s just too hard to cook gourmet style for a large party.
Go buffet, at least the food stays hot- sit down food is never hot- and it gives people more choices.
Post # 15
Sorry, not a fan of waiting in line to serve myself and then have to juggle sometimes multiple plates in high heels back to my table to eat food that is often cold by the time I get there. (I disagree with some PPs, I have never ended up eating hot food from a buffet. Overcooked food, plenty.)
I’m a foodie, too. I have attended some fancy events that had changing food stations all night long (a nibble fest, no need to wait in line or juggle a salad plate and dinner plate at the same time) and had some excellent food, but I’d be really surprised if that option was less expensive than a plated meal.