(Closed) A Free Wedding Dress from family friend…but not my style (pic heavy)

posted 7 years ago in Dress
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  • Post # 77
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    OH MAN. A wedding dress is SUCH a personal opinion… I mean… I’m suprised how many people don’t realise this and offer their dresses – like moms and grandmother – I get that it’s a nice gift, but people can’t seriously expect a girl to not want to pick her own wedding dress.

    I would kindly explain you appreciate the kind gesture, but you had your heart set on a specific style and the dress offered is a very very specific style that doesn’t suit everyone. That is, if you want a different dress. In my opinion, the only way I could see the gifted dress working for you is if you have a very over the top ornate wedding in a massive ballroom or castle. Something totally over the top. Because that dress is WILD!

    Post # 78
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Please no! It doesn’t seem bridal to me … not because of the colour because of all the things going on with it.

    Go with your heart – I’m sure your mother will understand.

    Post # 79
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That dress is a disaster – sorry to offend if anyone liked it. If her neice didn’t have to wear it, why would her friend’s daughter have to wear it? No dice. Next!

    Post # 80
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    54 posts
    Worker bee

    I have to say I love the freeby, but I bet if you take mom shopping and find ‘the one’ she’ll agree. Hopefully, you’ll both know when you see it.

    Post # 81
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Bless your heart, that dress is wearing you! 

    While I’m certain it is the perfect dress for someone, I’m just not sure who that person is. I can appreciate all the detail and craftmanship, but that is A LOT of dress. It’s not even remotely close to anything in your inspiration folder.

    YOU are the one who has to wear the dress, not your mother.

    Tell her she can pick what SHE wears.

    Post # 82
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    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Arganique:  I actually found the dress is very nice, and fits your body type, but it’s definitely not a “current” wedding dress style. I would keep the dress for a fancy dress costume (maybe wear it a very short time at the reception if the owner will be there, to keep them happy). The only other way I think that may fit with the dress is change your wedding to a costume wedding party theme, just an idea.

    Post # 83
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    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Also, tell her if she likes this dress so much, she can wear it.

    Post # 84
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    39 posts
    Newbee

    That first dress may be beautiful for someone else, but it looks costume-y to me. This is the one day that is supposed to be all about you (and your fiance!), so I say go out there and find yourself something that makes you feel like you and extra beautiful!

    Post # 85
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Nooooo. I just… wow. 

    Just tell her that while the dress is nice, it doesn’t fit what you had in mind for your wedding and get something that you love. 

    Post # 86
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Yea….no. Not a fan. You would have to pay me a SIGNIFICANT amount to wear that on my wedding day =/ It’s a nice gesture but…just no.

    Post # 87
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    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Umm no….I don’t like calling anyone’s dress choice ugly but this one definitely is. I would politely say “No thnak you its not my style but I appreciate you thinking of me”. The dress just looks like a complete mish mosh of fabrics like someone just had some ends of material left over and decided to stitch them together.

    Post # 88
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That is definitely a dress that you could only wear if you were REALLY invested in it. It is lovely, and if you were into that style and it fit your personality, it would be perfect. But it isn’t you and it looks nothing like your inspiration pics, and it’s the kind of dress that would end up wearing you instead of the other way round! Absolutely go pick what YOU want. You don’t need to settle just because this one is free. 

    Post # 89
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You deserve to be in a dress that you know is beautiful and feel comfortable in and love on your wedding day!  Stand firm and tell your mother no thanks!  Just because the price is right doesn’t mean the dress is!

    Post # 91
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I don’t like that dress AT ALL and it doesn’t seem like you do, either. So just tell your mom that it’s not what you want, but you appreciate the offer. Once you find something you love and she sees how happy you are in it, she will understand.

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