(Closed) A Free Wedding Dress from family friend…but not my style (pic heavy)

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Which one do you like better?
    The Victoria/Vintage Wedding Dress : (10 votes)
    2 %
    The Inspirational Dresses : (414 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 92
    21 posts
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Do you know what theme you’re going with? For example if you are going romantic I would ‘say thank you so much for your kind offer and the dress is beautiful (common courtesy even if you’re lying through your teeth!) however it doesn’t fit in with our theme’, or you coud say that you’ve had a dress in mind forever that you’ve loved and you’ve got your heart set on it? Good luck, I know how hard it is trying to please everyone, at the end of the day it is your day:)

    Post # 93
    12245 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I was expecting something not your taste… Not a total fashion disaster! That is HORRIBLE! Your mother must be KIDDING about wanting you to wear it… Look at the neckline! You’d send sweet old Nana into shock!

    I would politely return the dress and say how you’re just “not as fashion-forward as this dress”, but gush about “how sweet” and “how generious” the offer was!

    Post # 94
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Your dress is your choice: even if the rest of us LOVED the gift dress and found it to be  gorgeous, if it wasn’t “you”, you would have every right to turn down the dress. You can acknowledge how generous the offer was and extend your thanks, noting that there are many, many styles of beautiful wedding dresses out there, and this was simply not your style.

    Post # 95
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Doesn’t look like a wedding gown at all. I don’t mind gold accents but that dress is GOLD. I can’t imagine ANYONE wearing it as a wedding gown, especially when you have such different tastes. 

    Post # 96
    349 posts
    Helper bee

    Your inspiration dresses are tasteful, stylish, up to date and completely lovely.  The gifted dress is, ummm, rather extreme and costume-like.  Please follow your heart and find your own style.  Surely your mom is not seriously thinking you should accept this offer! 

    Post # 97
    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Could you maybe say that you really want the experience of picking out a dress, ohhing and ahhing over it with your mother and best friends in the bridal shop, so you will opt to get your own because that experience is worth the money to you? I feel like this way wouldnt insult anyones bridal dress tastes…


    That dress…is….. horrid (i feel like i can be honest because OP doesnt like it)

    Post # 99
    4802 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Just wanted to say that I accidentally clicked on the poll for the gifted dress, when I wanted to click for the inspiration dresses!  Sorry!

    The ones you like are so much more beautiful, modern and also classic.  I’m sure the friend will understand that it does not fit in with your vision of your wedding, as that dress is made for a very specific vision.

    Post # 100
    3571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Oh wow. I LOVE gold, and I really dislike that dress. I agree with you. It’s very victorian and reminds me of something one could consider wearing to a period gala. If this isn’t what you’re going for, I think it’s fine to say, “Wow! That is so generous! Thank you! But I’ve got my heart set on something different.” No one can really argue with that.

    Post # 101
    1176 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Unless your wedding theme is “Renaissance Faire,” DK the free dress. 

    To refuse it politely, just say something along the lines of “It’s a really beautiful dress and I really appreciate the generous offer, but it’s just not the most flattering style on me.”

    Post # 102
    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

    Good job. I’m glad you got out of a sticky situatiOn so gracefully. 

    I actually came back to this thread to share that last night I had a nightmare about having to wear this dress. So, I’m glad you don’t.

    Post # 103
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    its your big day,the dress looks like a costume i agree.go with what you feel

    Post # 104
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    the gold dress is nice, but it’s clearly not you. it’s your day, your dress. you deserve to feel like a princess! 

    Post # 105
    1489 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Um wow.  That dress looks like wonder woman and marie antoinette had a love child.  Eek!

    no no no no…go find the wedding dress of your dreams.  No one should have to wear a dress given to them by someone else.  


    I’m sure there is a really cool, very unique, bride out there who would love that dress.  Who knows… Maybe she’ll see this post and beg you for this dress!!

    Post # 106
    4504 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010


    That dress is such a specific style; I can’t believe your mom and family friend don’t get that you might not like it. It is SO different from what you want… thank your mom and the friend, but please get a dress that you love!! 

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