Post # 92
Do you know what theme you’re going with? For example if you are going romantic I would ‘say thank you so much for your kind offer and the dress is beautiful (common courtesy even if you’re lying through your teeth!) however it doesn’t fit in with our theme’, or you coud say that you’ve had a dress in mind forever that you’ve loved and you’ve got your heart set on it? Good luck, I know how hard it is trying to please everyone, at the end of the day it is your day:)
Post # 93
I was expecting something not your taste… Not a total fashion disaster! That is HORRIBLE! Your mother must be KIDDING about wanting you to wear it… Look at the neckline! You’d send sweet old Nana into shock!
I would politely return the dress and say how you’re just “not as fashion-forward as this dress”, but gush about “how sweet” and “how generious” the offer was!
Post # 94
Your dress is your choice: even if the rest of us LOVED the gift dress and found it to be gorgeous, if it wasn’t “you”, you would have every right to turn down the dress. You can acknowledge how generous the offer was and extend your thanks, noting that there are many, many styles of beautiful wedding dresses out there, and this was simply not your style.
Post # 95
Doesn’t look like a wedding gown at all. I don’t mind gold accents but that dress is GOLD. I can’t imagine ANYONE wearing it as a wedding gown, especially when you have such different tastes.
Post # 96
Your inspiration dresses are tasteful, stylish, up to date and completely lovely. The gifted dress is, ummm, rather extreme and costume-like. Please follow your heart and find your own style. Surely your mom is not seriously thinking you should accept this offer!
Post # 97
Could you maybe say that you really want the experience of picking out a dress, ohhing and ahhing over it with your mother and best friends in the bridal shop, so you will opt to get your own because that experience is worth the money to you? I feel like this way wouldnt insult anyones bridal dress tastes…
That dress…is….. horrid (i feel like i can be honest because OP doesnt like it)
Post # 98
Ladies, thank you all for your replies! I really appreciate the honesty, truly! I didnt feel comfortable in the dress at all, as it wasn’t my style, color, anything! I do want the experience of shopping around for a dress, and Im certain that I will find something that is somewhat close to my inspirational photos!
I was not planning on wearing this dress. I was planning to first find my dream dress, and then turn down the offer, simply saying that I found something else. But I feel that I shouldnt be afraid to hurt anybodys feelings, especially because I have a right to my own opinion especially regarding my wedding dress, it is such a personal decision! So I called my mom today and politely told her that I have made up my mind and that I will have to refuse this dress. I was afraid she s going to be sad, but to my surprise she was completely understanding, and told me that my wedding will be just the way I want it, with no pressure from anyone else! i was very happy with her reaction, as her support and approval means the world to me.
Nevertheless, I will call the family friend and thank her for thinking of me and for the gesture. Although the dress is not my style at all, some might find it suitable for their taste and wedding theme. Me, not so much.
thank you again, very much for your feedback!
Post # 99
Just wanted to say that I accidentally clicked on the poll for the gifted dress, when I wanted to click for the inspiration dresses! Sorry!
The ones you like are so much more beautiful, modern and also classic. I’m sure the friend will understand that it does not fit in with your vision of your wedding, as that dress is made for a very specific vision.
Post # 100
Oh wow. I LOVE gold, and I really dislike that dress. I agree with you. It’s very victorian and reminds me of something one could consider wearing to a period gala. If this isn’t what you’re going for, I think it’s fine to say, “Wow! That is so generous! Thank you! But I’ve got my heart set on something different.” No one can really argue with that.
Post # 101
Unless your wedding theme is “Renaissance Faire,” DK the free dress.
To refuse it politely, just say something along the lines of “It’s a really beautiful dress and I really appreciate the generous offer, but it’s just not the most flattering style on me.”
Post # 102
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
Good job. I’m glad you got out of a sticky situatiOn so gracefully.
I actually came back to this thread to share that last night I had a nightmare about having to wear this dress. So, I’m glad you don’t.
Post # 103
its your big day,the dress looks like a costume i agree.go with what you feel
Post # 104
the gold dress is nice, but it’s clearly not you. it’s your day, your dress. you deserve to feel like a princess!
Post # 105
Um wow. That dress looks like wonder woman and marie antoinette had a love child. Eek!
no no no no…go find the wedding dress of your dreams. No one should have to wear a dress given to them by someone else.
I’m sure there is a really cool, very unique, bride out there who would love that dress. Who knows… Maybe she’ll see this post and beg you for this dress!!
Post # 106
That dress is such a specific style; I can’t believe your mom and family friend don’t get that you might not like it. It is SO different from what you want… thank your mom and the friend, but please get a dress that you love!!