(Closed) A funeral the day before your wedding

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5427 posts
Bee Keeper

I am so sorry about that! HUGS to you and your family.

Post # 4
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m so sorry about your uncle.  I can kind of relate as my grandfather passed away the morning of my wedding, if it helps at all my family was able to go forward and celebrate our marriage as we know he would have wanted.

Post # 5
3696 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so sorry for your loss.

In a bittersweet way, though, it’s actually kind of nice that your family will be able to come together to grieve for your uncle and celebrate his life, and then turn their attention to your wedding as an affirmation of hope and love and the fact that life goes on. I think it would definitely be appropriate to acknowledge your uncle’s passing at the ceremony, in whatever way you feel comfortable doing, but know that it doesn’t have to be mournful. Something along the lines of “We are grateful to have such wonderful families, with whom we share life’s sorrows and it’s joys. We would like to raise a toast to the memory of (name),” and then transition to a toast to your future happiness, etc.

Post # 7
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Post # 8
13904 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So sorry to hear about your loss.  I’m sure your uncle will be looking down on you as you walk down the aisle! Hugs!

Post # 9
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@junesun62:  I cannot imagine what you must be going through, I’m really sorry to hear that. He will be there in your hearts and minds so he’ll still be there in a way. 



Post # 10
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club

Aww. I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁 Big hugs to you.

I definitely understand your conflicting emotions of grief as you approach your wedding. My grandfather actually passed the week before my wedding, and it was SO so hard. It ended up being a blessing (and exactly what he would have wanted) because some of my family members who weren’t coming to the wedding decided to come since his memorial was held two days afterwards. 

Did I miss having him there? Absolutely. Of course. Was the weekend tinged with sadness? Yes. But honestly, a wedding is a celebration of love, and guess what? Funerals are celebrations of love and life too. You are honoring that person’s life and passing, and what better way to follow that than with a wedding? New beginnings.

Sorry, I’m rambling on. I obviously don’t want to minimize the loss (because believe me, I know that it totally sucks to lose a loved one this close to the big day), but try to focus on honoring your uncle’s memory, and know that you can still celebrate and enjoy your wedding day while grieving for his passing. BIG HUGS to you!

Post # 11
6112 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so very sorry!  My thoughts are with your family.

Try to think about how life is all about coming and going and events happen one way or another, and people do have to push on.


Now my dad died this month, and we ended up cancelling our would be wedding for next month, but we had a few months notice as he was ill. 

Post # 13
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@junesun62:  You are a strong, resilient woman for keeping it together the day of your wedding. I am very sorry for your uncle’s passing.

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