Post # 1
So my girlfriends and I had a “girls only sleepover” the other night. To celebrate some friends being in town for the holidays… ANYWAY – I am the only one of my friends that is engaged. 2 are waiting and praying and a few are just having fun. Well, we got to talking and the 2 girls who are waiting were talking about how they want to pick their own ring, and the guy better NOT pick one on his own unless she shows him pics of what she wants and yadda yadda. Well my Fiance picked out my ring by himself and Im so in love with it!! Its perfect!! I feel as if I were to choose my own that there are SO MANY styles and types that I could never decide on just 1 if I had free range to choose from.
So, im curious, how many of you picked your own ring and would never let Fiance do it alone???
Post # 3
I picked mine but wouldn’t mind if my husband had at all. He knows my taste & knows that I am a solitaire gal.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We don’t ever spend that much $$ without consulting the other, so of course we both had input on the rings. And did I really want someone else to pick out something that I am going to wear every day for the rest of my life. H3ll no! I am too much of a perfectionist.
Post # 5
I told him that I wanted an asscher and a really slim eternity band. I’m glad I didn’t actually go ring shopping with him though. Picking out a diamond seems really stressful to me.
Post # 6
My Fiance picked the ring out with the help of my boss (kinda weird but he is educated in the ring department) and it worked out perfect. I love my ring (and it’s great quality) and love that I was completely surprised!
Post # 7
I gave Darling Husband my suggestion (ok – my rules) of what I wanted: yellow gold, solitare.
He went shopping with what I wanted in mind (or so I thought!!)
I got a white gold, three-stone ring.
At first, I was super disappointed, because it was not at all what I was expecting. But, guess what?! I LOVE LOVE LOVE my ring and could not imagine a better ring.
I think (now) it also goes to show that Darling Husband is often more wise than me in his choices (not just about rings, but in about life stuff). Sometimes I think I have the best plan, but 99% of the time, if Darling Husband has a different opinion and we go that route, it’s the better plan/choice/idea…….
I never thought about that correlation until now… but maybe a guy picking the ring IS significant in the foundation for marriage. Not to say I don’t have a very vocal voice in our marriage – but for Darling Husband picking the ring he would give me to marry me was a very special thing for him. It took time, effort, and I know he wanted it to be special.
All that said – at the time of our engagement, I would have preferred to pick it out with him – but now I’m very happy that he made the decision himself.
Post # 8
I picked out my ring and love it. No way would I have let Darling Husband pick my e ring or wedding band. He would have never picked out the design I liked.
Post # 9
I gave the style I like and we discussed the price range together, he chose the ring.
Post # 10
I’m not voting because my Fiance picked something completely different than the ideas I showed him (and I love it)!
Post # 11
I am trying to convince my SO to let me help him do the picking, but he’s dead set on picking it himself. He has given me jewelry gifts three other times (a watch, a necklace, and earrings just this xmas) and I’ve concluded that based on how he did, HE NEEDS HELP. I am terrified of which ering he may pick out, especially considering he like extravagant styles and I’m more simple. Now breaking this news to him is a different story. I’m still working on a strategy to make sure I get what I want without him feeling like I did the picking! Wish me luck :/
Post # 12
My Fiance was and still is pretty clueless about fine jewelery and the 4 Cs of diamonds. I knew what I wanted and made sure he knew it. He said if he picked it out all on his own, he would have picked a round diamond solitaire, which is beautiful and classic, but really not my style at all.
Post # 13
I gave a few subtle hints to my guy.. but he picked it out 100% himself and I was completely surprised + in love with it!!
I told him basically: I don’t like diamond solitaires, and I would love a gemstone ring. But if you’d prefer to do a diamond, I like princess cut with accent stones. I ended up with a sapphire ring with diamond accents.
Post # 14
Fiance and I lightly discussed rings early in our relationship and I realized that he had the EXACT opposite taste I had- the ones I loved, he hated, and the ones I hated, he loved. I trust Fiance but not in the area of rings 😉 So I made it clear I wanted at least some say in what I get. He ended up proposing with a joke ring and let me pick mine completely on my own, then he bought it for me. I wouldn’t change a thing.
ETA: Besides, I did a LOT of research on diamonds and made sure to get the best diamond for the cost. Fiance would’ve chosen something at the first store he’d walked into and spent twice as much on a diamond of lesser quality than my current ring. In my experience, guys hate shopping of all kinds, lol.
Post # 15
Thanks ladies. I think its very interesting with all the different approaches everyone took. I think maybe another reason I was ok with Fiance doing it is bc he is a gemologist. So he clearly wasnt going to give me something that was ugly. BUT, I will say that I was happily surprised that I LOVED the setting. The proposal was a 100% shock to me that I wasnt expecting also!!
Post # 16
Fiance picked out my ring entirely by himself. The one and only thing I said I didn’t want – a cluster of diamonds instead of a center stone – is what he picked! But turns out, I love love love it! It’s perfect and I wouldn’t trade it for anything!!!