Post # 1
Hi beehive, I could really use your creativity/experience with a question/problem: I have a neighbor who has been a tremendous friend to me — almost like a (fairy) godmother — and I’d like to find a way to recognize her with a role in my wedding party. I thought about asking her to be a bridesmaid/attendant, but I didn’t want to put her in the somewhat awkward position of having to do a bunch of traditional bridesmaidy activities with the friends that are my age (30ish). I’m left with the idea of asking her to do a reading, but we weren’t really thinking of having readings at our ceremony. Can you help me think of other ways to give her a special role at my wedding?
Post # 3
Honestly, I think you named the places I would have put her. Perhaps she would just be happiest as a guest and not have to do anything?
Post # 4
Maybe thank her in your program and give her a corsage to wear? How much older is she? I would honor her in your toast at the reception and in the program and maybe give her a corsage or a small bouquet. Honorary grandmother status!
Post # 5
I don’t think you have to give her a "role" per se, I like PPs’ ideas of letting her be a guest, giving her a corsage and honouring her in your toast and program (possibly with other people in a ‘Special Thanks’ section). I would also give her a very nice and personal thank you gift, with a sweet letter. I’m sure she would appreciate that. 🙂