- 5 years ago
Hi Lovely Bees!
I’m over the moon excited, as the night before last I had a truly good waiting day! I’ve been waiting since July, when I found out he bought the ring (he doesn’t know I know). It’s been an emotional 5 (and a half, but who’s counting? ) months. Since I knew he had the ring, I’ve been doing my very best to be patient… However, patience isn’t a strong suit of mine, any day of the week – so it’s proven to be difficult. We’ve gone to Mexico, on hikes, road trips, to Zion, back “home” – you name it… and I could never figure out WHY he was sitting on the ring. My SO is an extremely articulate, thoughtful, and precise guy. Everything he says/does is with purpose and is the exact opposite of me when it comes to anything impulsive… Deep down I knew there was a reason why he was holding out on me, but I never could figure out why.
OK – I’m done with the mumbling.. Here’s the exciting news.
SO & I LOVE to travel, it’s a big passion of ours & a very big aspect of our relationship/lives. We’ve been itching to go on another big trip (out of the country for 3-4 weeks) and I’ve been telling SO that before I want to splurge on a trip, I want to have some other “things” figured out… Meaning, I didn’t want to drain savings on a big trip and use that as an excuse to not buy a ring, or have a wedding. He agreed, but the topic never really evolved.
Well, the night before last he was looking at plane tickets and our frequent flyer miles to see if we could make a trip happen. I said “I’m all for another trip, but you do know that we need to have a chat about some other things first.” He laughed and said “I know…” I asked him if he wanted to talk & he agreed to do so. We had a long conversation about marriage and this trip…And Bee’s… We decided that our June/July trip to South Africa could BE OUR HONEYMOON!!! I.am.so.excited. I told him that to have a honeymoon we need to have a wedding, which means I need a proposal, he smiled. (This entire conversation was in a playful manner, and not uber serious – even though the topic is very important/serious). He then tells me that I should start planning a wedding!!! I told him I didn’t want to do that until he proposed (*ahem*Ihopehedoesntfindmypinterestboard*ahem*) and he didn’t argue with that.
Lastly…I finally figured out WHY he’s been holding onto the ring….. If any of you can recall… I picked out this gorgeous, handmade from recycled materials, ring off of Etsy. I’ve loved it since the first time I saw it. Anyways, he goes:
“Do you still want the ring of etsy?”
Me: Of course! Unless you’d rather pick out something yourself.
SO: What if it’s too small?
Me: We can get it resized, no big deal.
SO: No, like the diamond (it’s a mossanite, but I wasn’t going to correct him at this time), what if it’s not big enough??
Me: Of course it will be. I love that ring, and besides – it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. You could give me a ring pop and I would be happy.. But it probably wouldn’t last long because I would eat it. *Laughing*
At this time I am like bursting at the seams… Poor SO has been hanging onto this GORGEOUS ring because he’s afraid it’s not good enough. Bless his heart. I wanted to comfort him (without leading on that I knew he already has it) and I hope I did a good enough job where he will feel comfortable proposing on Christmas…Or VERY soon…
You see, our South Africa trip has to been booked by end of January (and the sooner the better for planning purposes) and while, he could still hold onto it for a little longer – I’m hoping he doesn’t, so we can get this show on the road!
Sorry this turned into such a long post. I am just so excited! I never would have guessed this was the reason he was hoarding my precious ring 😉
Now… I just need to keep sane until Christmas… and hopefully not much longer after that. I’m trying REALLY hard not to get my hopes up & my heart dead set on Christmas… but man-oh-man, it’s so hard!