Post # 1
1. I forgot to say in any other posts that today is my first day posting as I am a new bee and I am absolutely loving getting all of the questions I have out there for open suggestions. <3 ya’ll
2. Now I have to get through this post without tearing up. Both my fiance and I have had grandparents that have recently passed. These were people who were so influential in our lives. I miss my grandma and im fanning my tears as I think about her right now. And my fiance misses his grandpa soo much.
How can we incorporate these special people into our ceremony and reception?
Post # 3
I found an antique brooch locket pin and put a picture of my grandmother and a picture of FI’s uncle in it. It will be pinned on to my bouquet.
We’ll also have a bunch of relatives wedding pictures on a table, with a tealight under anyone who is no longer with us.
There are many things you can do – be creative – but just be mindful of the balance between honoring someone and making it too somber for a wedding.
Post # 4
@mandypop: I really like the brooch idea. Maybe I can get one pinned into my bouquet and find something a little more manly that can be pinned into his boutteniere (spelling?) of his grandpa.
Post # 5
I am glad you posted this. My grandmother had passed away a few weeks ago, and I was trying to figure out something as well. Mine is a little tricky as I am having a destination wedding. I like the brooch idea that is very nice. I already picked my colors for the wedding (blue) and my grandmas favorite color was purple, so maybe I will try throwing a couple purple flowers in my bouquet? Not sure if it works too well.
Post # 6
@Tropicalbride: I think incorporating your grandmas fave color in there somewhere is a good idea. even if its just that one flower in your bouquet, you will know its there and why.
damnit im gonna start crying again!
Post # 7
My SO has a brother that passed before he was born, all our grandparetns have passed. I am having two of my special aunts light a memorial candle for all our loved ones who can’t be there during the ceremony. They will walk down first adn light the candle. Also on the table with the candle I will have pictures of the ones that have passed as wel. Our mothers will then light the unity candles from the memorial candle. Both a literal and figurative passing of the torch so to speak.
Post # 8
@furtureffcaptwife: thats beautiful. I love the idea as well.
Post # 9
I always like an In Loving Memory section in a program too, where you can say something about the people who couldn’t be there with you on your special day
Post # 10
I second StaceVBee’s suggestion about the In Loving Memory section in a program, I’m doing that for my own family members who are no longer here. I’ve lost three of my four grandparents in the last three years. In addition to the program I have bought my cake topper with the small inheritance that they left me, and made a sign explaining it’s significance (nothing too sombre, just a photo of them and a note saying how glad we are that they can still be a part of our special day). This way, I get a keepsake for after the wedding that reminds me of them as well. Finally, for my “something old”, my aunt gave me one of my grandmother’s handkercheif’s to pin to the inside hem of my dress. It means a lot to me to have this close to me on the day.