(Closed) A Groom’s Cake VENT

posted 7 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it all depends on where you are from if it is expected or not. A lot of times the groom helps to pick out his cake, that is probably why they are asking him about it. My Fiance did not pick out his cake, but he knows he is getting one.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I agree with PP. As a cake designer, when the grooms cake is ordered, usually the groom is present. Sorry people are ruining your surprise, but I assure you they aren’t doing it on purpose.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If people are asking him whether he’s doing a groom’s cake, and presumably his answer is “no”, then why do you think he is expecting one?  Unless his answer is “hmm, I dunno, we’ll see if acingthelace gets me one” and then he suggestively wiggles his eyebrows at you or something.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I agree with PP. As a cake designer, when the grooms cake is ordered, usually the groom is present. Sorry people are ruining your surprise, but I assure you they aren’t doing it on purpose.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

Yeah, I don’t think people are doing this on purpose. I don’t know much about groom’s cakes, and I didn’t know that they were supposed to be a surprise. If I knew the groom and wanted to ask him about the wedding, I might ask about the groom’s cake because I would think he might be more interested/involved in that aspect of the wedding planning. If it’s a surprise, I would kindly tell your friends/family to not mention the groom’s cake to him. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Crestmore Manor

Yeah that sucks, I’m grateful that no one has mentioned a groom’s cake to Mr. Ticket because he’s only seen one once before and I know he isn’t expecting it. While they don’t have to be a surprise I defintely want to surprise him. Though his isn’t going to be crazy special or anything, just his favorite ice cream cake at our rehearsal dinner. I feel your pain. If one more person asks me what my garter looks like in front of Mr. Ticket I might strangle them.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

First of all, traditionally the grooms cake is designed by him and the wedding cake is designed by her. So, it isn’t that unrealistic to ask him about a cake. Also, if everything he knows and has seen has been “no” then there is no reason he would expect to get one.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah – their questions are very normal.  Typically, the groom designs the groom’s cake; it isn’t meant to be a surprise so they would have no reason to expect that your’s is.

Sorry it is upseting you though.

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