Post # 1
AHHHH.. Ok that felt good
So here is what makes me want to lock away two out of the three of our groomsmen.. Now I would not say that they are the most polished people in the world and that I can understand but they have went way over the line this time. On Saturday night my Fiance was to have his Bach party, no big deal they were going to go on a mountain biking trip and have a grill out later that evening. My Fiance is pretty reserved and shy so no worries about anything to crazy he is not much of a drinker, Him and I have a very open relationship and I have never once told him he couldn’t hang out with these “friends” and when they call it is not like he asks me for permission..I really could care less
Originally my Fiance had about 15 friends invited but when he showed up for the cook out there where over 50 people there!!! Some who he didn’t even know, others that he couldn’t stand. Well as the night continued let’s just say “drinks” were free flowing and our beloved groomsmen got tanked. some guy I guess showed up with his kid’s one being only 11 years old and one of the groomsmen in his drunken haze poured beer all over that poor kid who then started crying. Then they started insulting my fiancé telling him that he was whipped and that he had nothing but a lame life ahead of him. At this point my Fiance got in his car( he didn’t drink) and went home..that in turn caused a slew of rude text messages about how he stupid and no fun ..and more about how I was ruining his life….
Well my Fiance calls me pissed beyond belief and tells me what happened another one of his close friends agreed that is was out of control… He told me if it wasn’t besides the fact that they were in our wedding he would never want to see either of them again and that after our wedding that they will not going to be a part of our life. He said that if it weren’t for the fact we only have two weeks until the wedding he would ask them both to step down!!
So now I am stuck with two idiots in our wedding and forever in our pictures..grrrrr
Post # 3
It’s never too late to ask them to step down! Honestly if they are being that hostile toward you and the marriage, they should NOT stand.
Post # 4
I would ask them to step down too. Not only are they going to be in your wedding pictures forever (unless you have photoshop) but they are also against your wedding. AND completely and utterly disrepectful to your Fiance.
Are these the people you want standing up for your marriage?
Post # 5
De-groomsmen them! Honestly, if that’s how they acted at what was supposed to be a low key weekend, there’s no guarantee they won’t get tanked and make fools of themselves at your wedding! The last thing you need to be thinking about as you get married is what jerks they were to your Fiance and wondering if they’re going to make a scene. Tell them to step down, un-invite them to the wedding, and tell your venue / large male relatives and friends that they are _not_ welcome at your event. What a sad way to find out his “friends” true colors :/
Post # 6
why would you want people like that to have any part in your wedding, honestly like the day is about you and your partner and you done really have to conform to groomsmen flowergirl etc you could have none, i would not have them in my pictures never mind at my wedding…
Post # 7
I agree with the above posters that it’s never too late to get rid of them in the wedding. Do you really want anyone that is not supportive of your marriage to stand at the alter with you? And what makes you think they won’t act the same way at your reception after a few drinks? You could have a very embarassing situation on your hands. It doesn’t matter if your bridal party is uneven in numbers. Only have people who love and respect you!
Post # 8
Oh no!!! That is so horrible and disrespectful, Im so sorry that this is happening to you so close to your wedding!! Like you need the extra stress. I would have my Fiance ask them to step down, I think the people standing up at your wedding should be the people who love and respect yall AND your relationship.
My Fiance has one close friend who has never liked me since the very beginning, He is always openly rude to me and tells me mean things. My Fiance and him are still friends, but he specifically didnt ask him to be a groomsman because he doesnt respect our relationship. I hope things work out, keep us posted!
Post # 9
Yeah… it might seem unthinkable to you to switch out the groomsmen at this time, but get rid of them. As you said, they’re going to be in your wedding pictures FOREVER. An uneven wedding party would be better than having those jerks as a part of your special day, or you and your Fiance could ask cousins or uncles to fill their places.
Post # 10
Definitely ditch them. Like NOW.
Post # 11
kick them out!!! its not worth the aggravation, stress, and having people in your photos you are not even friends with!!
We kicked out a bridesmaid and a groomsman (they’re a married couple) and we’re not regretting it ONE bit. The drama and drunken antics that would’ve ensued with them there would’ve been a disaster.
Post # 12
oh man. i don’t have any advice, just wanted to say i am sorry to hear about this! what a mess, and your poor man! he must feel awful.
Post # 13
I agree, kick them out, it’s not worth it, and do you really want to look at your wedding pictures and see them and be like “Ahh I hate you!”?
Post # 14
I definetly ask them not to show up at the wedding. You could either get 2 guys that your both ok with and rent them tuxes/suits or just double up your brides maids have them walk down the aisle together. But i would not have people that may potentially get pissy drunk or hate that fact that my fiance is marrying me.
Post # 15
Yet another reason NOT to have a wedding party…between idiot groomsmen posts and crazy passive aggressive bridesmaids – I’ll pass on the drama!
That said – I’d kick them out unless the apologize – that’s so incredibly rude of them to be mean to your Fiance – but good for him for getting out of there since it was making him uncomfortable – seems like you’ve got a good guy that doesn’t put up with a lot of crap.
Post # 16
I really want to remove them from our wedding party!! But I feel like I am stuck.. they bought there own suits for the wedding, and we were only having three guys and three girls..one of Bridesmaid or Best Man is married to the groomsmen..so if he is out I can just imagine she would walk as well.. meaning we would be down to two BMS and 1 Groomsmen who is my brother ! We would also have to pay them back for there suites and her dress..we already canceled our honey moon because we can’t afford it… THIS SUCKS!!!