Post # 17
You don’t have to pay them back for anything — they’ve made their beds and now they should lay in them!
And if the Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t understand where you’re coming from, screw her too! These guys have no place in your special day!!
Post # 18
Sweetie do yourself and your wonderful groom a favor and talk to him about having the two guys step down. It is apparent that they don’t care about the friendship or the feelings involved, so it is better to have it overwith now than to look back, especially in the pictures, when they aren’t even going to be friends anymore. It is just going to cause a major upset and I would quite frankly feel very uncomfortable to have them at the wedding.
Post # 19
I can see why the paid-for suits and the married bridesmaid complicates it, but it sounds like these two clowns are definitely not worth the stress. Especially since the wedding’s so close and this will still be fresh in your memories. It sounds like they are so clueless they don’t even understand how much they pissed off your Fiance (I’m guessing they still somehow think this is your fault). So I think your Fiance should just call them up and tell them they were really out of line, and that he (and you) do not feel comfortable standing up with people who are so unsupportive (and just plain mean!). Maybe they’ll finally get how awful they were and apologize, but if not, I vote get rid of them! Lots of bridal parties are uneven, and if the Bridesmaid or Best Man wants out too (and actually knows what her husband did), then she’s probably not worth having either.
As for the suits–this was their bad behavior, and totally their fault, so I don’t think you should have to pay for them. Chances are, they can wear them again to plenty of other occasions. If they really complain, maybe you can suggest they sell the suits on Ebay or at a consignment store, and you can pay the difference b/w whatever they sell for and the original cost. But really, they don’t deserve it! Hang in there!!