Post # 1
I am pretty annoyed right now.
One of FI’s good friends/groomsmen agreed to go on a business trip today that leaves the day before our wedding. Our wedding is in nine days.
Fiance found out in a round about way. The groomsman did it without talking to Fiance about it. So Fiance asked him about it, and he didn’t seem sorry for it. He just acknowledged that he knew when the wedding was. Fiance said it seemed like he forgot when he scheduled it. But he didn’t forget to take off for the bachelor party.
He could have asked that someone else take the trip. He didn’t. His name is already printed in the program.
I just had to rant. When the groomsman got married, we went to every event. I don’t know how to feel.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
The economy these days doesn’t always allow people to make those choices. Your wedding is 1 day, his job needs to last a lot longer than that.
I realize it’s frustrating, but honestly– from his perspective his job should be more important because he likely can’t afford to lose it.
I had to deal with this when my sister (and MOH) was scheduled to be in China on my wedding day and I had a bridesmaid who missed literally every pre-wedding event because of her schedule. It sucked, but their jobs are were more important than my party.
Post # 4
oh no! So will he even be back in time for your wedding or is he pretty much out? I’m sorry this is happening. 🙁
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’m sorry, that’s such BS on the groomsman’s part. He couldn’t tell his company- hey, I’m in a wedding the next day, can I leave on this date instead, or can Joe go on the trip?
And how long ago did this Beavis schedule the business trip. Ooooo, I’d be so mad! Grrrr!
Post # 6
@julietteeliza: No, trust me, that is not the situation. I know that may be the situation for some, but he is completely secure in his job. I know this for an absolute fact…he is one of about 4 people who choose to rotate on these types of trips.
@zaakaawaa: Nope. Won’t be back.
Post # 7
RESOLUTION! The trip was pushed back and it turns out Groomsmen was completely oblivious to the date. So he can come now! Goofy of him to forget the date, but I feel much better now.
Post # 8
I’m so glad to hear everything has turned out ok… stressfull!!!
Post # 9
Fiance did this for a friend’s wedding. A friend that he never sees and never talks to (the guy lives out of state, and doesn’t have that many friends) asked him to be in his wedding, but never gave him a date or anything. We booked a vacation, and then went to FI’s tux fitting. While he was in the dressing room, the lady mentioned something about the date and I asked when it was, because the groom had never told him–turns out it was the day we left for our vacation. There was no way that we could change the dates (we couldn’t move our vacation days or our flights), so he had to back out. We felt awful. 🙁
Post # 10
@LizLemon: Yay! I was about to suggest that you go off, Liz Lemon-style:
Post # 11
@vorpalette: Oh no! Yeah, that was the groom’s B! This groomsman knew since last November. His own wife was talking to me three days ago about how the invitations to all of our wedding week events are taking over their kitchen. Homeboy is just man ditzy.
@BooRadley: YOU KNOW that’s how I do 😀
Post # 12
Yay! Glad it finally worked out. Not as if you needed any more stress this close to your wedding.