(Closed) A Guest Debacle

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you truly can’t accomodate another person because the venue is too small and/or money is an issue politely tell her no.  If you just don’t care for her, suck it up and say yes.  Though you don’t care for her, evidently her husband does.  I wouldn’t leave her hanging with a maybe.  If the friend from Tennessee can’t attend the wedding the wife will likely want to make other plans for the two of them during her friend’s visit.  

Post # 4
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I find this insanly rude, “oh i’m having company that weekend, so i’m going to bring them??” no thats not who I invited. I would say I’m so sorry be we can not accommodate another person, and if you can not come because of this we will miss you” I can’t believe people would acctually do this!!! 

Post # 5
3265 posts
Sugar bee

Hell no. You can’t just invite along a friend and expect you to host them. If her friend is visiting she will have to choose, your wedding or visiting time.

Post # 6
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Tell her no, the friend cannot come because of time/money issues. If the friend can’t come, the wife will probably decide not to come also.

Post # 7
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t leave her hanging because you might not know until it’s too late to make other arrangements. I would just tell her no. I would tell her that your guest list is final, there is no room to accommodate more people, and you can also say that you are not allowing anyone else to bring an extra guest and you feel that it would be rude to the other guests.

Honestly, the nerve of some people…. Don’t these people remember getting married??

Post # 8
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow, I can’t beleive how rude people are!  I would never even think of bringing an univited guest (whom the couple don’t even know) let alone tell the bride I am going to!

If I were you I would just tell her no. Your venue will only allow for a certain amount of people and you would rather have people that you actually want (and know!!!) at your wedding.  You might also want to add that you have a B list too, just in case she finds out someone else can make the wedding and thinks her friend will be a good replacement!

Post # 9
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

NO! Do not let her get away with this… it is so incredibly rude.  She can choose not to come if she wants to but she can not just add a guest to your wedding!

Post # 10
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It amazes me how rude some can be! You need to flat out tell this woman no, she cannot bring her friend.  Your wedding isn’t a backyard BBQ where it wouldn’t matter so much if an extra person came. This is a huge life event and just because this woman has a friend coming to visit, doesn’t mean she can just assume she can bring the friend.

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