Post # 1
Hey bees, I’m going to start by saying I’m kind of miffed by this, but let me know what you all think.
My fiance and I are having a baseball-themed wedding, so I designed invitations that look like tickets, and created a custom folder to hold them in. They took me MONTHS to make, and while I’m super proud of them, didn’t want them flashed all around (I specifically don’t post anything wedding-related on Facebook, because I don’t want all my business out there).
My fiance was adament about inviting a couple from out-of-town that I have never met, and while we both decided at the beginning of wedding planning that we were only going to invite people we both knew (minus our parents friends), I relented and told him we could invite them because we had room at our venue. I was scrolling on Facebook today at work (hehe) and saw my fiance tagged in this guest’s post. She posted our invitation to her timeline, complete with all of our information.
Not only do I think this is completely tacky, but there are guests who have yet to receive invitations. Also, ALL of our information is now on Facebook – our date, venue, start time, etc. I don’t have any crazy exes, and neither does my fiance, but I pick and choose very carefully what I post, so it really bothers me that someone has posted my information for all to see. My fiance told me he would tell her to pull it down, but I don’t want her to think I’m a Bridezilla, especially since she’s never met me.
Am I wrong to be upset about this?
Post # 3
@mgol25: I don’t think you’re a bridezilla for wanting it taken down. It’s a privacy issue. Plus, some people that didn’t get invited may get upset. I think if you explained this to her, she’d understand and remove the post.
Post # 4
No you are not wrong….that would kind of tick me off too. Who does that?
Post # 5
@mgol25: totally agree with you. id ask to have it taken down.
Post # 6
I would be upset as well. Why not just have you Fiance ask her to remove it and let her know that you don’t want your personal information and wedding information all over facebook since many people weren’t invited. I’m sure she will understand.
Post # 7
Just send her a message and kindly ask her to remove it because all of your personal information is on Facebook about your event and you don’t want it all over social media sites.
Post # 8
I would be super pissed if someone did this to me!!!! I had a very original invite that I worked very hard on and one friend wanted to put it on facebook but she asked me first and I said no I did not want it up there
Post # 9
She was totally out of line to post that with your wedding info up there.
Post # 10
That’s rude and you’re not wrong for asking it to be taken down. Maybe to soften the blow, you could say that you don’t want to hurt the feelings of those who weren’t invited?
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Yikes! If your Fiance is tagged in it I believe he can request that the picture be removed. You’re right, obviously you don’t want all your wedding details available online.
Post # 12
Yeah, this wouldn’t sit well with me either. I think your fiance should contact this couple and tell them to remove it from facebook. His friends, his problem to deal with.
Post # 13
@mgol25: She should definitely take it down!! I once had a creepy guy drive 3 hours to show up at a publicly posted event that I had RSVP’d to!!
Post # 14
Whoa whoa whoa… talk about invasion of privacy. That’s like announcing someone else’s pregnancy or something before they get to!
Okay, a little exaggerated, but still. SO NOT COOL. I would absolutely ask them to take it down.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Just send a polite message or ask Fiance to call to say that you are glad they are excited to have received the invitation but do not want the details shared over the internet, expecially in a public/semi-public forum.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
Eh, that’s plain weird. I would never, ever post anything providing details like about other people. If she the thought the invite was cool, she could have blocked the pertinent information and posted that. (I wouldn’t do that either, but she must be a little unhinged, so that would be better, I think).
Now that she’s done it, I think I’d ask my fiance to contact her and just say, “Hey X, We’re really happy you’re so excited about our wedding! I saw that you posted our invite with all of our information visible to everyone. Would you mind talking that down? We’ll be sure to share our wedding details with all who are invited. Thanks, and we look forward to seeing you!” Or something similar. No need to point to you at all. You’re not a bridezilla. She’s a bit silly!