(Closed) A guest put my invitation on Facebook

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No, you’re not wrong to want it taken down at all. Your Fiance has probably already spoken to her now, but if not, I would suggest to send her a private message on facebook, asking her to remove it. It could also be a way of introducing yourself, since she’s coming to your wedding and have never met her. Just be quite layed back and relaxed about it but just maybe say there are a few people who you don’t want having the information and if it’s on facebook they will get it. Yes, it’s a white lie but it’s a good excuse. She’ll probably feel terrible for doing it.

Post # 63
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’d’ve the same, she was out of line and rude. Don’t let it bother you too much you don’t need this added stress leading to your big day. Just ask for it to be taken down

🙂 

Post # 64
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963 posts
Busy bee

It’s a breach of privacy, being a bridezilla has nothing to do with it.

Post # 65
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9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I feel for you (( HUGS ))

No secret… I HATE FACEBOOK

It is high school cliqueness on steroids for the 21st Century

Ridiculous !!

This person may have been impressed by your Invites (they sound lovely)

BUT they surpassed the limits on acceptable boundaries…

And are into the realm of Privacy & Security issues

Cannot believe they don’t have a clue

Oversharing, means that they put you and your event at risk … duh ??

Be it Uninvited People you know… Unknown Wedding Crashers… creepy Internet Stalkers (YES folks they exist… just ask any professional writer or pseudo Celebrity)

OR the worst… THIEVES

Thieves love this kind of info… they now have your names and dates… and can figure out quite easily the other other pertinent info they need (like where you live)

This will put A LOT of people at risk… You, Your Fiance, Your Parents, His Parents

Honestly… besides pointing this basic crap out to this simpleton… (and YES I’d be angry)

I advise you guys to also now make arrangements for someone to watch the key players homes.

And that sucks !!

She’s taken away your PRIVACY and your PEACE OF MIND, in one fell swoop.

God, I’d be tempted to UNINVITE HER !!

(Ok Im visibly angry)

But then again, I’m not even on FaceBook, and have come to hear that before I could blink at our Back Home Reception, a Girlfriend had her IPhone out and quickly plastered our pics all over FaceBook.  Now I keep running into “acquaintances *” who say… “CONGRATULATIONS… I saw your pics on FaceBook”

I grit my teeth into a big smile, and grrrrrowl on the inside every time this happens.  Not everyone wants their life on the “front page” without their say-so

* Everyone we loved and wanted to share our news with was invited to our Back Home Reception.  I don’t see the need to tell a bunch of random strangers our stuff, share pics etc… And as I have no control over this… I do feel it is an invasion of my Privacy.

Post # 66
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1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d be upset too.

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Firework:  +1.  I think it’s reasonable to ask someone to take it down but I don’t think it was that incredibly awful that she posted it in the first place. 

I, personally, wouldn’t be upset if someone posted my invitation.  Anyone not invited would know they aren’t invited, and I highly doubt any of them would try to crash my party.

Additionally, I wouldn’t be worried about theft because I don’t post my address online. (I don’t play 4square for that reason).

Again, it’s perfectly fine to ask her to take it down (it’s your info), but I don’t think that she was being overly rude.  She was probably being like me, and not seeing it as a privacy violation.

Post # 68
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @BeachBride2014:  just curious…

IF you GOOGLE your name… or that of anyone else’s who appears on your Wedding Invite … there is no way then that you get any hits for addresses, phone numbers etc ?

Because I sure as heck do with mine.

Post # 69
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1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My main concern is all the info. My Fiance designed out invites (what he does for a living) and they’re incredible and I want to post them on here, but there’s SO much information I don’t want people to know that I’ve resisted. I’d ask that person to take it down. I think you can actually request facebook to have it removed, but that may cause unecessary drama.

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@This Time Round:  Not for me… but to be fair, I don’t have a land line and I don’t list my address anywhere.

I’m from the generation of cell phone users. The only real information you could get from my name is my work info. 

That is a very good point, nonetheless.  Personally, putting my name out there wouldn’t give anyone a clue as to where I live.  But that isn’t the case for everyone.  That’s why it wouldn’t make me bat an eye if someone posted my name online.  But I would be very willing to take down information if someone asked me to.

Post # 71
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@michiru4ever:  +1 – some people feel the need to post every little thing they do on facebook. I bet she didn’t even think about the privacy issue or that other people not invited to the wedding may see it. I would just ask her to take it down and explain your reasoning. I don’t think you sound like a bridezilla at all! She was the one who put you in this awkward position.

Post # 72
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m glad things worked out in the end and it was removed.

However, it was very poor judgement on her part to take it upon herself to post your invitation. Her common sense should have told to blur out your personal info. What IF either of you had a stalker or an evil ex who stumbled onto this? There would be no going back. I hope she’s profusely apologized to both of you and hopefully makes better decisions in the future.

Post # 73
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@This Time Round:  To be 100% fair, I’ve also posted my name, venue, and date multiple times on here, and this is much less private than Facebook. 

So I’m evidently not that privacy conscious anyway Tongue Out

Post # 74
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1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Let your fiance tell her to take it down. Sad that someone even has to tell her, though. Let her feel like a fool. Just…wow.

Post # 75
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9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @BeachBride2014:  good points.

Lol, the no land line, cell phone thingy isn’t just generational… it is a lot more far reaching than that.  Lots of folks have given up a land line due to cost issues.  Cell phones are easier (24/7) and then there is also the transition to things like Vonage, Magic Jack & Skype.  The majority of folks I know (20s to 70s) that have land lines now is because of their jobs.

Interestingly, I know that in my case my name, and address appear online.  As well as my cell phone number… because they’ve been published in various professional capacities.

As for what one posts here on WBee (or any other social media site)… well that would be a personal choice that YOU are making.  And so YOU get to control how much you wish to disceminate to the the rest of the world.

The biggest difference for the OP is of course, she wasn’t given that choice.  Someone else chose to SHARE an important part of “her life” (private life ?) with the whole world.

So ya, for some folks that is an issue … and feels like an Invasion of Privacy.

I realize everyone is different… but based on the responses in this topic so far, it does appear that a lot of other people (besides me) feel that way about it vs the way you do.

And as such, I do thing that it therefore has some merit.

Even if the results were in the minority… I think that if the OP felt strongly about having her info / photos whatever shared, she’d be within her rights to say that it made her feel uncomfortable / exposed.

And that the correct thing for the person to do who be to apologize, and heed her request to remove the info from the public domaine.

 

Post # 76
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d have your fiance ask her to take it down.  I can’t believe this person doesn’t know any better. 

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