(Closed) A guests bday at wedding tomorrow

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1496 posts
Bumble bee

I think if we you just wish her a happy birthday that should be enough. I’m not really sure what you’re wanting to do. 

Post # 3
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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EDubbs:  Agree with PP, I would just wish her a happy birthday. I wouldn’t make it a deal at your sisters wedding, plus most adults don’t care about their birthdays much.

Post # 4
4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We got married on a good friend’s birthday. I had the caterer put a candle in his dessert. That’s it. No singing or anything, but it was a simple way to acknoledge without a big deal

Post # 6
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My brother-in-law’s best friend/best man’s 5-year wedding anniversary was the same day as his and my sister’s wedding reception. They played their first-dance song for them. His wife was bawling and they both loved it. That said, they knew they’d like having the spotlight on them a bit. Would your mom’s friend like that? If not or you don’t know, I would just say something privately. I like what Glasgowbound did for her friend.

Post # 7
9477 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

who is giving the welcome speech, can they just mention a special shout out to those celebrating birthdays.

Post # 8
992 posts
Busy bee


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EDubbs:  If you were the bride, acknowledging her bday at the wedding (like
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Glasgowbound:  mentioned) would be really nice. That said, since it’s your sister’s wedding and you’re not hosting in any way, it may be a little odd to do anything other than simply telling her ‘happy birthday’ at the wedding itself. If you really think something more should be done, you should talk with your sister about it and leave it up to her.

Post # 9
1316 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Ask your sister if its okay first. I dont see anything in your post that says you did. 🙂

Post # 10
1243 posts
Bumble bee

You can tell her happy birthday yourself. However it’s not your wedding, so not your place to do anything at the event.

Post # 11
7528 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s your sister’s wedding, not yours, so it’s really her choice on if she wants to make a formal acknowledgment (assuming the guest even wants that— which many don’t!).  Have you asked her what she thinks?


Post # 12
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I was at a wedding once and they had a small little cake (that you can get at a grocery store, just one of the little rounds, I think they’re less than $5-$10) and they set it up for her with a candle at her table. It’s definitely not necessary but I thought it was a very nice touch, but obviously check with your sister first.

Post # 13
1496 posts
Bumble bee

I would also be concerned that it could be another guests birthday as well, that you don’t know about. If you make a big deal about one birthday and miss others, it’s a bit off-putting.

Post # 14
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Agreed with PPs that it should be the bride and grooms choice. 

My brother-in-law’s best man’s birthday was the day they got married, and they had a little cupcake for him. I don’t think we sang happy birthday. They just gave it to him privately and I don’t think he minded.

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