(Closed) A guy flipped out when he found that I suggested my SO what to wear

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s hilarious. Dude is totally out of line. Fiance is actually pretty stylish, but a touch colorblind, so he often asks “Hey, does X look ok with Y?” And sometimes if he’s been wearing the same t-shirt around the house all weekend, I’ll ask him to move on to something else just because I’m a little bored with it. I’d be more emphatic if he was inclined to wear awful stuff!

But yeah, as others have said, I think there might be a clue as to why that guy is single.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

As long as your Fiance is fine with it it’s not an issue. 

I do it with my Fiance all the time. I won’t make him wear something but suggest different things. He doesn’t always listen but he’s become a better dresser since he met me. His brother, who is gay, even told him that one day 🙂

Post # 19
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Nothing wrong with suggesting! I only do if asked as Fiance has his own style anyways (as in heavy metal t-shirts mostly!!!) but he does often ask me if we’re going out somewhere or to a party, wedding etc. He also asks my opinion when shopping- don’t see the problem in any of it! Ignore him- he sounds bitter!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am shocked that was even an issue in someone’s mind- people are so strange!

Post # 21
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Uhmmmm Hubby and I give each other opinions on clothes all of the time. That guy is strange!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I RARELY suggest clothes to him. But he will ask my opinion and I will honestly give it to him.

When I ask him for his opinion, he says I look great in everything (i call bs)

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Darling Husband has no fashion sense. I usually buy all of his clothes or go shopping with him. When there is an event that we need to go to I will usually ask what he wants to wear when I am ironing my clothes in case he needs his clothes ironed. He usually either asks my opinion on an outfit or just asks me to pick something out and iron it for him. I never thought twice about it and Darling Husband certainly does not find it controlling.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s 100% ok to suggest something for your SO to wear, especially to a special occassion.

However, my Mother-In-Law takes it way too far. She dictates what my Father-In-Law wears to everything. He’s 55 and can’t leave the house without her approval. Case in point, our wedding dress code was “no ties”. Simple enough, right? Shirt, slacks, jacket if desired, just no ties. Mother-In-Law INSISTED that Father-In-Law wear a tie! She was like “it’s a wedding, men should wear ties.” Even Darling Husband wasn’t wearing a tie, and he was the groom! Father-In-Law got to take off the tie after the ceremony, but only because all of their friends ragged on him so much! That’s taking it too far!

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hubby asks me all the time to give my input on what he should wear.  He also asks me to look for clothes for him when I go shopping, b/c he hates clothes shopping more than anything.

There might be two reasons this guy is 38 and never married: He is an A-hole OR his exaggerated concern over his masculinity is a sad cover up for the fact that he is gay and too scared to come out.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I definitely suggest to my Darling Husband if he needs to change his outfit or dress up.  Example:  Going out for a nice dinner and Darling Husband is still dressed in his garage/shop clothes…Uh, yeah…not gonna happen.  Going to a restaurant covered in sawdust & paint is not cool! lol  I don’t feel bad at all for making clothing suggestions!

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah, that guy has some issues about being controlled. In his mind, if you make a suggestion, you are his mommy telling him what to do. He has to constantly asserting his independance and let you know, “You aren’t the boss of me!”.

Makes me think of they guys I dated in my 20’s. When I would let them know I needed more affection from them, they complained about me trying to control them. Ugh–why did I stay with them for as long as I did?!?

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

That man is out of his mind if he thinks you suggesting the shirt was out of line.  What he said was really rude and uncalled for.  I hope you or your Fiance told him to mind his own business.  Idiots like that wonder why they aren’t married.  I buy all the clothes for everyone in my family and pick out everyones clothes they will be wearing.  I have a five and a three year old so of course I pick out their outfits and my husband enjoys not having to think about it.  I lay the clothes out, he wears them and we both like it like that.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

hubby asks me for my opinion all. the. time. he won’t even go shopping without me anymore. i don’t regularly pick out his clothes or anything, but he def involves me.

we were visiting his parents this weekend, and his dad literally told him to change at least twice–once to wear nice pants instead of jeans to dinner at a nice restaurant, which was excessive but somewhat reasonable, and once to wear a polo shirt instead of a t shirt to a diner. totally ridiculous. i wonder if that guy you met would think that’s “emasculating?” 😛

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Only time I’m really on hubby to wear something super-specific is when we’re getting pictures taken. If I don’t do that, our Christmas pictures from last year would have him wearing a blue shirt while the girls and I had on black, green, and red. Not gonna happen at my house 🙂

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

ok this is ridiculous. You did not “tell him” to wear anything. You made a suggestionrequest and he agreed to it. So it really was a personal choice on his part too. That male friend of yours is making something out of nothing. My SO actually asks me for help especially when its for a specific event (he has a hard time deciding whats appropriate depending on the formality of the event). He is very much a tshirt and jeans kind of guy so anything outside of that he asks for help. Also, if he knows I like a certain outfit or whatever he will make an effort to use it for events where its appropriate because he just likes to look good for me :D.

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