Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2014 - Barn
I was just wondering if any other young brides or soon to be brides had trouble connecting with their friends. For example, my best friend S has never had a serious boyfriend, is at a really different place in her life. On the other hand, I’m moving in with my SO and we’re getting engaged in the next little while. We’re getting a house, are getting a dog, and I guess are ‘settling down’ together. We’re on such different paths at the moment that it’s been a real challenge to connect. I’m 21 by the way, so a lot of the things she’s interested in are more typical of a 21 year old..
Does anyone else have this problem? Please feel free to elaborate 🙂
Post # 3
Same here, I’m 23 myself and have been with my Fiance for over 6 years. I experienced that with some of my friends, they decided to party and do their own thing and I chose to go to college, buy a house, have two dogs and start my life with my best friend. I don’t regret my choice to spend my time with my Fiance, but I do feel badly that it meant that they wouldn’t sacrifice one party night for a dinner out or not to be near tons of guys aha.
My suggestion is that you try to keep having girls nights, take up a hobbie with her (like the gym), I really just focus on my own life now and not theirs.
Post # 4
You’re not alone. I am 22, getting married this summer. My Fiance is 30, and we are both working full time jobs, living together and saving for a house. All of my friends are 21-23, still in school or just graduated working part time jobs. They live with their parents and are not in a serious relationship. It can be hard trying to relate, but remember that everyone experiences things at a different rate, and you should still make time to hang solo with your girlfriends 🙂
Post # 5
Yeah I have a very similar situation, I’ve been best friends with my bestie since we were 11, we’re now 24, we were always going to move out together when we were old enough, until i met Fiance and we moved in together after 6 months, there was some resentment there at the start, we’ve now been together for 6 years and getting married in October, we have two furbabies together, a cat and a dog, so we’re very settled. She’s never had a serious relationship. It’s been a rough ride at times but we’ve just let each other do our own thing if we need to but made it very clear that we’re there for each other whenever we need it, i’ve had to make sure i make the effort to go out with her and have girls nights and she’s had to understand sometimes i will decline a girls night to spend time with Fiance – it’s all about balance. She is going to be my maid of honour in October and she has been so good, i half expected her to not be all that interested or just go through the motions coz i know deep down she thinks i’m too young to get married or just is in a different place to me so doesn’t understand, but she’s mroe obsessed than me about this wedding, when we see each other it’s all she wants to talk about and i have to change the subject all the time!
At the end of the day as long as you don’t neglect her and she knows how important she is to you, and she knows there’s always a place for her in your life, you will be fine.