(Closed) A hard weekend…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
188 posts
Blushing bee

I am sorry to hear this is making you anxious or stressed, but you have come to the right place for friendly advice from people who know exactly what you are going through! Waiting can be tough, and many describe it in cycles– sometimes it is giddy anticipation, but sometimes it is frustration with the unknown!

I would recommend that you try to focus on the positives, and on the certainties that you can hold on to, such as: he has bought the diamond! he is actively looking for the most perfect band for your perfect finger! he is putting so much thought into choosing the perfect ring for you, and there is no question in his mind that you are the girl for him! 

Hopefully you will cycle to the giddy/content stages soon and enjoy the rest of your time as a waiting bee!

Post # 4
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Stay calm! This is the exciting part!

Try giving yourself a 2 month deadline before you think of it again (yeah right I know, but try). Why 2 months? I figure that it would take a month to get a ring made with the stone and a month to plan the proposal. Then after that time get excited again. But don’t get disappointed too quickly, proposals and rings take lots of time and planning. It’s coming, be patient. (Again, I know that this is hard/impossible :P)

In the mean time think of all the things you are doing for the last time as “single”. This is your last March! Your last start of summer (or autumn) etc etc

Maybe set a goal? I will have learnt x recipes by the time I’m engaged, or saved x money or something! Something else to focus on.

Good luck, can’t wait to hear all about it once it happens! 🙂


Post # 5
493 posts
Helper bee

@SeattleMolly: OMG! Chill mama. Just enjoy this time. I would LOVE to know that my SO already has the ring, etc but it’s just a matter of him planning and the timing being right. Just give him time to do his thing. I’m sure you’ve read a lot of posts on here lately where the proposal is very important to the men. Let him have his moment! Good Luck! But hold off and keep silent….Can’t wait to hear your story and see your ring…

Post # 6
3304 posts
Sugar bee

This is honestly the best part- some waiting bees still have to get their SO to the part about looking for a diamond or buying a ring— you are in the home stretch because once that diamond is on its setting, it is only a matter of time before it is on your hand. I emphasize, you are in a REALLY good spot- just keep busy and help him whenever he requests it (yes, go look at settings!).

And start a wedding fund- get focused on saving for your big day- that will take some of the focus off of waiting.

Post # 8
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think you are farther than most of us on here. You know he has bought the diamond and he even showed you. My SO will not be telling me anything, he wants it to be a huge surprise. Something that we can tell our kids one day sort of thing. So I wouldnt be too down about it. He is half way there. It will be soon. Just dont bring it up at all , at this point if you dont bring it up it will happen faster.

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