(Closed) A hard weekend.

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry that your weekend ended that way.  I’m sure your BF knows how you were feeling, sometimes they know you so well that you don’t even have to say anything!  Hopefully that time will come for you soon and you’ll have a great time with his family planning the wedding!  Just think that your BF’s Future Sister-In-Law is doing all your research for you and she’ll be a big help when its your turn!

Post # 4
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Honey bee

sucks :/

your time WILL come though, your bf is as good as promising it! Try to focus on enjoying this time for what it is – 1) a crash course in wedding planning as you get to watch her plan, and 2) you’ll never get to go back to ‘just’ dating once you’ve been married (or engaged), so enjoy it while you can!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

๐Ÿ™  I”m sorry.  I totally feel for you. 

Your man obviously loves you so much, and DOES want to marry you (you mentioned in another post that you’re just saving up, right?), so try to just focus on that.  The thing about the wedding to remember is that it’s just one day (albeit, a fun one, but still…just one day) to celebrate the love and life you are planning together.  And when you get down, just remember that you guys already have the love and are planning on sharing your life together, which is way more special than one party ๐Ÿ™‚ 

*HUGS!*

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

mmmtacos – experiencing the same thing! it’s definitely hard to enjoy times with family and friends who are in the midst of wedding plans when it’s NOT you! I am completely empathizing. I am sending big hugs your way! All we can do is hang in there!

Post # 7
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Worker bee

Awwww sorry to hear that. Just know that your time will come, and it will be super special! I know how tough it is though… ๐Ÿ™

Post # 8
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494 posts
Helper bee

I know how that feels.  I am glad to hear that he is so perceptive, I know that his acknowledgement doesn’t make things easier all the time, but it’s sweet.  Your time will come, hopefully soon!!  Sending you good thoughts and big hugs. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) I’m sure that is really difficult to go through.  I am also sure that he is probably trying not to steal the thunder of his brother’s engagement and wedding planning.  when is his brother getting married? perhaps you can drop a hint about how you read on line somewhere where a couple get their engagement secret until after the soon to be bride’s sister got married and how romantic they said it was to be secretly engaged, you know?

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

at mmmtacos (LOVE YOUR NAME) btw, trust me i know! i found out my younger cousin is now married and has moved on with the stage of her life that i am most looking forward to now, sigh oh well lol c’est la vie! enjoy this time with him because it’s going to be the last few times that you’ll be an unengaged couple.  that sounds like such great advice huh, remind me of this come christmas after i am here bawling my eyes out with wine in hand because we didn’t get engaged on christmas. :D..  lol i’m serious though. i know it really doesn’t help, but it sounds like he is definitely thinking about it and is just buying time until his brother’s wedding.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

It doesn’t sound like it’s a question of whether or not it will happen…just when. Is it something your boyfriend knows is important to you? Have you guys talked about a timeline? How about suggest if he’s not ready for the big bling, then get you some other sparkles for your birthday?

Honestly, I know how you feel. My little brother is getting married in 3 weeks. At first I had that funny “but I’m supposed to be first” feeling. Now, I agree with @jingle96…after watching them over the last few months, I’m glad that they’re doing all the hard work first. A lot of bumps along the way as he’s the first in my family to tie the knot.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

So did you guys talk about the disconnect (quick and dirty engagement vs. slow and steady)?

What are the differences in your backgrounds?

Post # 16
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Newbee

Aww..I totally sympathize with you! That kind of stuff is hard and sometimes painful. You want to be or atleast show you are happy for the couple but you can’t help getting sucked down into a pit of despair. This has happend to me many times. The first and worst time was when my bf (of two and half years at the time longer now) tells me his best friend was getting married after dating for six months and six months later was their wedding. It was like someone ripped my heart right out of my chest.

Atleast your guys knew what was wrong and tried to comfort you.

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