(Closed) A healthy relationship surrounded by dysfunction…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hi, and welcome!  I know that my family is full of wonderful relationships that have lasted for years, but that my fiance’s family is pretty dysfunctional.  The drama just keeps unfolding…but he and I have a great relationship.  I am a little concerned about his mother when we have children, though…eek.

Post # 4
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8438 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Just something to keep in mind- one person dysfunctional is another persons functional!

It takes all kinds of different people with different views to makes this world such a wonderful place. So unless there is abuse occurring try not to judge others relationships by your standards. Some people choose to be happy people whilst others enjoy being miserable. Different strokes for different folks.

Post # 5
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m in this boat too. I finally snapped and asked my mom to go to therapy with me after years of catty passive aggressiveness towards my relationship. We start Wednesday…hopefully it helps!

Post # 6
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1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

MOST relationships start out wonderfully, or it wouldn’t be called love. I am sure most of the dyfunctional relationships seemed great at the beginning too. Many many things can happen in the course of a lifetime to “sour” a relationship!

 

Post # 8
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@KT808:  Oftentimes, there are relationship and communication patterns in dysfunctional families that get passed down through the generations. It’s really interesting, actually – it’s usually pretty textbook. WHile yes, things happen during life to make it more complicated, there’s usually an underlying broken foundation that causes things to spiral more quickly. I have actually mapped it out in my family’s generations with a therapist before. It’s very interesting!

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