A-holes to get married July 4th?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
9207 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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mel2 :  you’re only jerks if you get mad at people for not coming because they have their own vacation plans. Otherwise it sounds fun! 

Post # 3
1644 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

No? If your wedding is small and comfortably held at home. I wouldn’t mind giving up a 4th for my sis or daughter. 

But id think about how it’ll work when you have kids. Do you ditch them to celebrate your anniversary? Or do you not celebrate on your day?

Post # 4
2466 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I wouldn’t go unless it’s a family member i’m close to or a good friend. I celebrate july 4 with my family and kids. 

Post # 5
60 posts
Worker bee

I love the idea. My boyfriend and I met on the 4th of July and I’ve toyed with the idea. We’ll have to see when we actually start looking at dates and venues.

I think the 4th is a pretty casual holiday, it’s not like you’d be getting married on Christmas. I guess some people may have their own traditions like an annual BBQ, but I think they could plan around a wedding.

Post # 6
2360 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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mel2 :  I never have set plans for 4th of July, especially since I usually work the day after if it falls on a weekday. If one of my friends was getting married that day, I would definitely go to the wedding and take the next day off so I could celebrate all night! 

I would just recommend checking with the people closest to you and make sure that it works for them before anything is set in stone, I did this with all my close friends prior to setting my date even though it was just a random summer weekend because it was important to me for them to be there.

Post # 7
6929 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I actually really like this idea. Unless we’ve planned to go out of town, we never have specific plans on the 4th of July. It’d be fun to attend a wedding but still get that July 4th feel! As long as you don’t care if a lot of people decline, I say go for it! 

Post # 8
2213 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Personally, I hate when people get married on summer holidays. Between the 4th, memorial day and labor day, those are my weekends to take a long weekend to the lake and go out on the boat with my family. But if you ask your closest friends, and they are into it, then go for it. Just don’t get upset if people are either a)silently seething or b) don’t show up. 

Post # 9
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

ill be honest, our friends did this. and everyone there was pissed. it was talked about A LOT at the reception. of course we went because we felt like we HAD to be there. the bride even made it a point to tell everyone that they are not allowed to wear red white and blue at all. do what you want but try not to be too upset if people decline the invite. alot of people go away for the 4th.

Post # 10
329 posts
Helper bee

I usually go Out of Town during the 4th so I would be torn about whether or not I should go. If I ended up in town, I would probably go to the ceremony and for part of the reception simply because I would rather do something else for the holiday. 

Post # 11
882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Yes, unless you had family only wedding who celebrated together every single year.

Im Canadian day so our equivalent is July 1st Canada Day, we have friends who got married on the saturday of the long weekend a few years back and many people were pissed and they had quite a chunk not attend.

There is so little summer holidays and time for long weekends, please let people enjoy their long weekends how they see fit..

Post # 12
9876 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you were thinking this year, July 4th is on a Thursday. Maybe it’s different elsewhere, but I know everyone and their mother has asked off for the 5th at my employer. So if you have people traveling they may have a more difficult time taking off of work the following day.

Personally I wouldn’t be too happy about a 4th of July wedding. Would you want it to be an all night thing like a typical reception? Because I wouldn’t want to miss watching the big fireworks with my kid for a wedding.

Post # 13
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

It’s your wedding. You have it whatever day you want! I got married on Veterans day and it worked out just fine! 

Post # 14
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

May be unpopular but I cannot stand when people do weddings on major holiday weekends in the summer. Being in Jersey, those weekends are always a big time for family parties and BBQs and since hte season is so short, people don’t like to have it taken away. Obviously, if it was a sibling or cousin I’d kinda have to but other than that I would most likely decline. It is your day so if you want to then by all means go for it! I’d just have the expectation that you may get more declines than normal.

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