A-holes to get married July 4th?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Everyone I know uses summer long weekends to get out of the city and head to a cottage. I would personally not stay in town for a wedding, unless it was immediate family. So as long as you are okay with guests declining, then it is not a big deal.

Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper

You can of course pick any day you want, but be gracious with any declines. Personally I hate weddings over long weekends and attendance would depend on work schedules/proximity/relationship. As long as you aren’t upset that people prioritize their own plans over your wedding, you are NOT an a-hole lol. Just don’t come back and say “but we planned it for the morning so people still had all day to do their own thing” sort of thing. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

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mel2 :  this year July 4th is on a Thursday, and next year it’s on a Saturday. I’m sure a lot of people wouldn’t mind. But, since it’s on a holiday weekend there will probably be a lot of people who done come.. as well as people that come but are annoyed about it. 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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mel2 :  I wouldn’t come. But if it doesn’t bother you to have a small guest list, go for it. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I actually really like weddings on summer holidays BUT only if it’s in a place by the beach ☺️

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

The week of July 4 is the most requested week off at my work, and my boss is trying to figure out how to accomodate all the requests.  I work at a hospital so not everyone is going to be able to take off.  This tells me that a lot of people have plans that time of year.  We usually have plans with family so it wouldn’t be the end of the world for me, but I know a lot of people would be upset.

As a PP said, as long as you’re OK with the declines then celebrate when you’d like, and don’t come back and say that you planned your wedding for the morning and are still upset people declined.  I went to a July 3 wedding several years ago and I remember a lot of the guests complaining.

Post # 22
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Honey bee

I think long weekend weddings suck. It’s also super expensive for people that have to travel for your wedding. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We did try to avoid any dates near a holiday or long weekend, etc., because we didn’t want to potentially interfere with anyone’s vacation or family plans. If it’s a mostly a local and family wedding, I would say it’s fine, but if you’re looking for larger attendance, I would consider trying to pick a more neutral date. However, I don’t think your wedding will “suck” or that you are a horrible person for having a wedding on the 4th.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

Fabulous, refreshing, unique! We were married on Columbus Day. I’ve lived in Jersey my whole life, and no one whom I’ve EVER KNOWN held July 4th so sacred as to want to ‘keep it’ rather than attend a wedding.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I don’t really know how to answer whether or not it makes your jerky because I think everyone does 4th of July differently so some people might be thrilled and others may be inconvenienced, but I did want to say that we intentionally were married on July 6th so that our anniversary would be near the holiday so it would be easier to do trips to celebrate!

Post # 26
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

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mel2 :  I don’t think it’s an asshole thing to do. In fact, I would imagine that a bunch of people will be all over it for 2020 (since 4th of July will fall on a Saturday that year).

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I don’t think you’re jerks and agree what everyone else is saying about it being hard to get off, expensive to travel, expect tons of declines and people generally want to make their own plans for holidays especially since it’s the summer and kids will be out of school so it’s one of the easiest times to take a family vacation. I think the only possible jerky thing is if you know for a fact that people in your family or close friends celebrate the same way every year or have traditions they would have to break for it. I couldn’t care less about July 4th but some people care! Lol

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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mel2 :  A friend of mine got married July 3rd (July 4th was monday) a few years back. I typically traveled around the holiday weekend. My friend even knew this and gave more than a year’s notice to me to save the date. To me that was fine, as I knew well in advance and knew I wouldn’t make plans to travel that particular year. So, it was fine with me, preferably with notice, but nothing I was disappointed about at all. Had a lovely time.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Ugh I went to a friend’s wedding on July 5 with an 8 HOUR DRIVE EACH WAY. We mainly went because there was a major amusement park an hour away, but it was super annoying travelling that weekend.

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I think it’s a cute idea! Since you’re having a small and casual wedding, I don’t see the issue. I’m getting married on Mother’s Day this year. In our area, it’s very popular to take your mother out for brunch, so we are having a private ceremony (under 20 people total) in the early afternoon, and inviting everyone to a larger reception later. And honestly, most of the people on the guest list are famliy, so they will be with their mothers anyway. Also, it will only be on Mother’s Day every 7 years, so who really cares?

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