A-holes to get married July 4th?

posted 9 months ago in Guests
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You wouldn’t be a jerk for wanting to have your wedding on a certain day.  However,  you WOULD be a jerk if you gave attitude to people that couldn’t/didn’t want to attend.   It doesn’t matter how much notice you give/whether you think their excuse is “good enough”/whether you’d move heaven and earth to attend their wedding.   If someone decides that their annual family 4th of July vacation is more important to them than your wedding then you don’t get to decide that it’s not.  

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Personally, I would debate attending a July 4 wedding. If I needed to attend, due to closeness of the relationship, I would be annoyed about it. Darling Husband and I met on July 4, but we never considered getting married on that day. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I would go to your wedding. Me & hub just go over his sister’s for July 4, but it isn’t anything we couldn’t miss. 

Whatever you do, plenty of people will come, some won’t. Just don’t get butthurt at those who don’t come. Just be casual about it.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

mel2 :  I wouldn’t worry about it, especially if it’s a small, casual wedding! Any day you pick is going to not work for some people. If people have plans or don’t want to go, they can easily decline.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee

Know your guests and their plans. There was a time in my life where I woudl have found it fun. Now, I’ve married into a family where the 4th of July is a big family ordeal and I’d feel terrible choosing between a good friend’s wedding and family. I’d pitch it to your must-haves and see if it’s something they’d be excited about and know that some people will decline due to prior commitments.

Also, keep in mind flying over a holiday weekend can get very expensive, so I’d say it’s a no-go if you have guests coming in from out of town.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

No, you wouldn’t be jerks. My dad and his wife got married on 4 July. Their town puts on a big celebration for the fourth, and a lot of family members travel there for the fourth every year anyways. They did a casual backyard wedding and party. It was a lot of fun.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

If you’re having a small intimate wedding along the lines of what people do on Independence Day then I guess it’s no big deal? I mean the point of the day is to celebrate your independence how you see fit.

If you were having some massive black tie affair and a bunch of people had to fly out of town on the biggest summer vacation weekend to attend, I would think differently. I had to give up my July 4th plans one year because my ex’s cousin had a wedding that day; my ex’s parents had to fly out of town and leave their old dog behind for my ex to watch. On top of it all, we got this news last minute so I didn’t even have a chance to schedule a trip to see family elsewhere.

As long as you’re not doing that to people I think it’s fine.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

I’m not a big fan of holiday weekend weddings, but your plan sounds like a party I’d attend that day anyways just with a bonus wedding.

If there was travel involved, then my attendance would depend on how close we are.

Post # 39
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

July 4th isnt really a huge travel holiday or a big kinda deal imo, so I’d have no problem with a July 4 wedding.

Post # 40
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - Breckenridge, CO

I love that idea! I would totally go to a 4th of July wedding. 🙂

Post # 41
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1998 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

its gonna depend on the person, some people do something every year for the holiday, some people dont. I say go ahead and have your wedding whenever, but dont be upset if more people then you expect decide to decline. 

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