(Closed) A House May Be Putting Off A Baby

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d be totally fustrated and ready to strangle him.  I don’t know what is normal, but a year sounds like a really long time.  We saw literally every house on the market in our 3-5 desired cities within 4 months.  At that point we were just sitting around waiting for houses to come on the market, or had to change our requirements.  And after seeing  *everything* we saw enough to know that our desires/expectations did not match our budget so something had to give, budget or wants.  If you (he) *wants* a house, and has been looking this long, honestly, he just sounds unreasonable and doesnt seem to really want the house, or want to face reality.  

But if you think waiting for a house is fustrating, TTC will be 100000000000x worse. At least a house you have control over, you can compromise and be active.  How old are you?  If I were closer to 20-25, I may be a bit more patient.  If I were more like 30, forget it, I’d say lets TTC and deal with it when the baby comes if that’s what it took.

I hope you guys find your “perfect” (quotes only cause theres really no such thing unless you have unlimited budget) house and have a really easy TTC journey!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry you are in such a frustrating situation. I would just sit him down and tell him your fears about everything being put on hold for an unknown period of time. It might wake him up a bit. Maybe you two could work about a reasonable timeline for ttc.  In the mean time you can join the other ladies waiting to ttc!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would be inclined to stop doing any research and see if he steps up to the plate. We looked for a house for around a year too, so I understand how frustrating it is. No house is going to be perfect IMO, so he could be waiting a long time for that.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sounds like your hubby needs to watch a few episodes on HGTV about house hunting…the buyers on there often have higher expectations but realize that they HAVE to learn to compromise on some things because the “perfect” house just sometimes doesn’t exist in the area you want it to.  Also, there are some GREAT shows about taking basically a dump of a house that is a pretty low price, then using the “extra” money and hiring a contractor who completely fixes it up to meet their wishlist. It’s amazing! 

That being said, babies also don’t care where they live. Even if you didn’t have “OMG THE PERFECT HOUSE” before you started TTC, that doesn’t mean you won’t find it while you are trying (only the “lucky” people get pregnant on their first try…most people it takes a few months of good timing, and that’s if you have no fertility issues at all!) or while you are pregnant (9+ months of pregnancy is actually a pretty long time…).  I agree that your husband sounds like he could use a bit of a reality check! 

Seriously though, watch some HGTV. You can learn SO MUCH because basically most of the shows on there are house hunting shows or about fixing houses up to meet the family’s needs. Gahhh I’m addicted to that channel! 

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