(Closed) A house or a wedding: which do you want first?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What do you want to spend your money on first?

    A mortgage first - on the house of our dreams.

    A mortgage first - but it could just be on a little place and we'll move once married.

    A wedding first - but we can easily afford both a wedding and a mortgage.

    A wedding first - even if it means we start married life with no money for a mortgage.

    Other (explain below)

  • Post # 47
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    Honey Beekeeper

    We didn’t live together before we were married, so marriage/wedding felt like we’d truly be able to start our life together, even if we’re starting in an apartment. There’s nothing wrong with renting for a while, in my book.

    Post # 48
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I thought I wanted a house first… my 20 year house (but not dream house) we don’t want to leave the area until our kids are graduated. Then we started looking at houses and we realized we had to make a choice… get married or buy our 20 year house. I want a wedding and I’m not getting any younger so wedding won and hopefully our house comes within a year or so… and a baby! =)

    **also we already live together he moved into the condo I rent.

    Post # 49
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    7767 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    A wedding comes first.  Well, a marriage comes first.  And that doesn’t necessarily mean a wedding.  But I think it is ideal to be married befor you buy a house, that is just old fashioned me.  The marriage is what matters to me, not the wedding, so if I wanted to put toward a house I would have a teeny tiny beautiful wedding.  Isn’t that what it is about?

    Post # 50
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    11161 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Wedding, no question.

    I have stated on other threads that my Fiance and I have no desire to own a home and that renting is perfect for our crazy lifestyle right now. Maybe in a few years that might change, but for now it isn’t even on our radar.

    Post # 51
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    4479 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Well, we didn’t see it as an either/or choice. Houses are expensive, and we weren’t going to wait until we had $80K in the bank to get married. So we got married. We’ll buy a house when we can afford it.

    Post # 52
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    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Due to religious reason we’re getting married first and moving into a cute little apartment.  In a couple years we should be able to buy our first house.  

    Post # 53
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    we definitely could have had a smaller wedding and been able to purchase a very small home, but we’d like to have the wedding we’ve always wanted and live in an apartment until we can afford a nice and larger home  that we can live in for a good long while ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 54
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    2891 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m already a homeowner so it really isn’t going to affect the timing of a wedding. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 57
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    2891 posts
    Sugar bee

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    @VickyAurea: Really? Alright. That’s it. I’m moving to England. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 59
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    484 posts
    Helper bee

    Wedding first… then buy a house within a few years.

    Post # 60
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    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted other. I bought my house 1st. I had the money and I refused to wait around until he proposed. I said, at least I’d have a house, even if no ring if the relatinship went south. lmao. Morbid, but hey…looking out for #1.

    And la-di-da…still waiting..BUT I have my house!

    Post # 61
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Fiance bought his place 2 years ago and then I moved in ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s a 600sqft condo so we really need to move to something bigger soon. I would much rather save my money and put as much towards buying a bigger place, that’s why we’re doing a DW!

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    @pinkshoes: Who holds title to the house depends on what the laws are in your state. Here in Ontario, a house where a married (legal or common law) couple resides is considered a matrimonial home and is divided equally. This means that whenever Fiance decides to sell his place he will need my signature and if something were to happen I have full legal protection and can ask for 50% of the property. Whose name is on the deed/title has no bearing here at all.

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