(Closed) A “i don’t like you” Eitiquette discussion

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What to do about disagreeable co worker
    Be friendly : (7 votes)
    13 %
    ignore him : (20 votes)
    36 %
    push him in to traffic : (23 votes)
    41 %
    other : (6 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m really bad pretending I like people, but I still do it.

    I’ve read PPs about Toad and (after what you’ve said) I don’t think I’ll be able to be fake friendly with him, polite (as needed) yes but not friendly. Respect is something you earn.

    I like the idea of putting something in his soup, I’m evil and if I can help karma get back at someone I do =P.

    Post # 5
    Member
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I don’t hide my feelings well, so it’s pretty hard for me to be fake nice to someone.  I think you should be professional, and leave it at that.  Serious, but cordial… no false pleasantries.

    I may try looking for a new job as well.

    Post # 6
    Member
    904 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wouldn’t be outright mean or rude. Even if he is a scumbag (which it sounds like he is), I’d try to remain neutral around him. I wouldn’t pretend to be nice either. I’m sorry you’re in a tough spot. I agree with @BonbonBunny about maybe looking for another job. It sucks you can’t go to someone higher up because they’re buddies. So ridiculous. 

    On a side note, you should not have to deal with any sort of harassment if that is happening. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I remember the Toad story from the other day.  Does you company have an ombudsman?  Or a union steward?  Someone really needs to know about what this guy is doing, yes this is sexual harassment and he needs dealt with in a legal way.

    Post # 9
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    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted push him into traffic, just because I could. Otherwise, I’d vote ignore him AND find a new job. File a harassment lawsuit, whatever you need to do. If you leave and he doesn’t suffer any reprecussions from his on the job flirtations, he will just do it to somebody else.

    Post # 10
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Stealing tips from the staff is horrible but that will be hard to prove unless you have back up from the staff. If you’re being sexually harassed (physically or verbally) is a definate law suit. Plus, if I were you I’d be creeped out everytime I went to work. I don’t know how you do it. I think his dirty lil hands need to be slapped or maybe just slapped with a law suit.

    Post # 11
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    1697 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    touched your hair? (shiver) I am betting he gets some jollies off of getting a reaction from you. My M.O. is to be really nice to people I dont like, kinda like your Fiance says. BUT If i know this guy, and I am pretty sure I do…I would be very stern with him. When a man touches me without permission I get firmly aggressive. I point my finger as to repremand them and say “NO. Don’t ever do that again.” I say it in my mom/teacher voice and the stupid smile they had fades away and they look guilty and scared.

    ugh. I can’t stand “men” like him.

    Post # 14
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    Etiquette supports being coolly polite. Answering questions that directly impact your work, but not being friendly. No chit chat, no non related work chat.

    I would let the Groomsmen know he is crossing a boundary that may result in a law suit. Even if nothing happens at least you tried to rectify the situation first.

    Post # 15
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    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I vote push him into traffic.

    Real life ‘Frogger’ begins!

    Post # 16
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Have a conversation with the boss, the owner, or your union rep in which you use the words “sexual harassment.”  

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