(Closed) A interesting thing my BF said about wanting a bigger ring than what's offered..

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Bumble bee

wrong post. sorry.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

bibbithebee :  I tell my hubby about the drama on the Bee too! He thinks I’m nuts for reading all this – but I find it interesting. It reminds me why I don’t want to ever have to date again!

Post # 34
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Helper bee

Why is it like this in so many discussions on here? Everyone just goes crazy over something without even reading what the OP says? 

mishybear :  I do this too! We even read threads together! (I force him, out of love of course!) And he, at one time, even started talking about something a member on here had written, without me even mentioning anything! That was so funny! 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

bibbithebee :  I think you’ve got to consider that if so many users are coming to the same/ similar view then there’s something about the tone of earlier posts that’s given them that impression.

You posed a hypothetical situation, people have given their response to a hypothetical situation. You can’t get all dramatic over that.

You can create a big dramatic post with bold and underlines and multiple quotes all you like and clarify that the ring you want is under budget etc.  But you failed to mention that at the start (you know when chatting about loving shopping and how you could have a bigger ring if you wanted)… which suggests you’re enjoying the controversy of the thread. 

For what it’s worth, I still stand by my original view that most of the time people whining about upgrades and wanting bigger sparkly rings and loving shopping sounds very material to me. 

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I also don’t find a problem with the woman offering to chip in some of her money to get the ring that she wants. However, I do think that my fiance would also be upset in this situation. He is very proud of the ring he chose and he worked his butt off to get it for me (and I’m in love with it). 

I would never ask for a larger ring/offer to chip in money to buy a bigger one, however, I don’t think it is wrong for someone who isn’t completely happy to broach the subject. 🙂 

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

bibbithebee :  I have a 3.5 engagement diamond ring and some days I do want a bigger one like 5.5 or 6 carat. Honestly in my social circle and status the 3 carat is just a norm. And I want an upgrade in the future because me and him thought about getting a bigger ring anyway when he moves up on his job. If I want something I’m not afraid to tell him and he too isn’t afraid to tell me. He keeps mentioning Rolex every other days and it doesn’t put me off. This is the life we live and I don’t think anyone should judge people that want something great for themselves if they can afford it. I think each to their own. If I want an expensive bags I wouldn’t go to him and nag him to buy it for me. But if I want a bigger ring and he has been mentioning wanting to get me an upgrade even after I got the initial ring in less than a year then I won’t mind him to that too. Does this make any senses? That it doesn’t put us in debt if we upgrade and it won’t effect anything and he wouldn’t see me as a sugar baby or a gold digger? Haha I guess I’m just ranting here too.

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