(Closed) A kind of petty rant about bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

This all sounds very high school to me… why are you even friends with any of these people? They don’t sounds particularly supporitve or fun to be around. Don’t feed into the drama, just focus on what you need to get done, and next time trust your instincts about who you let into important life events. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. I’m sure if you complain now about this person, people will say “Well, didn’t she pretty much treat you like shit before?”

 

Post # 5
Member
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yuck. I wouldn’t trust K as far as I could throw her.

Will you.or can you dump her as a BM?

Post # 7
Member
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, first off I agree with @KatyElle: that the whole thing sounds pretty highschool, but I also understand that these people are going to be in your life so it’s hard to avoid them (and subsequently their drama).

At the end of the day, you don’t know why “K” agreed to be Maid/Matron of Honor. Maybe she felt guilted into it, maybe she didn’t want to ruffle feathers in her family…maybe she just plain didn’t know how to say no. Unfortunately sometimes people are in wedding parties for reasons other than loving the bridge/groom (family obligations, etc), and this very well may be the case. I mean, you said yourself that part of the reason you asked “K” was because you felt guilty about leaving her out…..Regardless of her reasons, it more than likely has nothing to do with you, so you need to let it go. You’re going to drive yourself crazy over this, and who does that serve? Honestly, you need to just let it go and focus on your own wedding. Let “S” have her day, and you have yours.

If you feel so slighted that you want to kick out “k” then obviously that’s up to you, but as you said…she’s part of your friend group and you ARE going to be seeing her…plus I’m sure she’ll still be invited as a guest, and if her and her family were so much drama before, think of how bad it will be if you’ve slighted her in some way.

I dunno, as much as it sucks, I think you kind of have to own your choice to ask her, because judging by the way she’s behaved kicking her out is probably only going to cause more drama in the end.

The topic ‘A kind of petty rant about bridesmaid’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors