- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I really appreciate everyone who has weighed in so far! I don’t mind being told when I’m being a little too harsh. That’s why I came here 🙂
To answer a few questions: In Canada, the G1 AKA Learners permit takes 8 months to a year. Darling Husband wrote his G1 AKA learners permit test during the TTC process…but it turned out to be a few months ‘too late’. We can’t financially justify the cost of taking the courses (they are quite expensive where I live), so it is going to take him the full year unfortunatly. He will be able to qualify for his G2 test literally WEEKS after the baby is born….and if all goes well we will be able to purchase our own vehicle debt free by the end of 2017 (the debt free part is important to us).
The reason I don’t drive is I was advised by a few driving instructors it would be a bad idea. I gave it a try a few times in my late teens and very early 20’s. I am hyper-anxious when operating a vehicle to the point of counter-productivity. When I am in an emergency situation I tend to freeze up and slam on the breaks instead of doing evasive action (note: I’ve never actually BEEN in a real one…they were ‘simulations’ only during lessons). This is unsafe for myself, any potential passengers, and everyone else on the road. To be honest, it was a RELIEF being told it would probably be better if I didn’t drive. Also, to be honest again I am 28 now and have no real desire to keep trying to force myself to do it. I live on a major bus route, everything I need is in walking distance (including my family doctor), and I will not be too proud to bring a stroller on the bus. I have always been independant in figuring out how to get from point A to point B. Before Father-In-Law lived with us we never asked him for a ride anywhere…it never occured to us! Even after he moved in I seldom had him to drive me anywhere before I hit part way through my second trimester and he started OFFERING (because winter on the bus in Canada sucks!).
Father-In-Law doesn’t actually have his Medical Marijuana License. I have always taken his word that he is smoking it for digestive issues…now that I am thinking about it maybe I SHOULD dig a little deeper because until it was mentioned in this thread, I never gave it any thought.
It was actually HIM who offered to be our ride to the hospital. We never approached him about it beforehand, and he didn’t take back his offer at any point when we told him this meant he’d have to lay off the weed. He has also gone through a few periods where he can’t afford to buy some and is without for a week or two at a time, and he seemed fine….gassy but fine.
As for why we aren’t just making ‘new arangements’ now: I neglected to mention in my original post that Darling Husband wants to give his Father one more chance (I think I thought I was implying it when I wrote my original post, but when I re-read it I realise I didn’t). His thought process being he thinks Father-In-Law genuinely doesn’t realise how bad he has messed up. I don’t know what to think about that. I was originally going to leave it alone until I heard about how the chat between Darling Husband and Father-In-Law went…but now that it’s been said I think it may be best to at least re-visit with Darling Husband making other arrangements before they have their talk.
As for Father-In-Law and childcare, I am planning on being a Stay-At-Home Mom and I don’t really plan on asking his help. The MOST childcare Father-In-Law would be doing for now would be to maybe watch the baby for an hour or two while I ran an errand once in a while. He has already been warned it’s a “one strike, you’re out” type of deal when it comes to watching my baby. As bad as it sounds to bring this up, he hasn’t been permitted to solo babysit my niece (his granddaughter) since he chose to smoke a cigarette while she napped after being warned not to…and I KNOW he has learned his lesson and doesn’t want to ‘mess up’ being able to babysit this Grandchild too.
One last thing, there was also reference made to an older thread where I complained about my College BFF’s EXCESSIVE weed usage. Believe me, it HAS occured to me that a few ‘key members’ of my ‘inner circle’ have a knack for questionable judgement! In all fairness, the majority of my circle has arguably good judgement and are fairly ‘vanilla’ when it comes to their vices, I just don’t bring them up as much because there is nothing to report with them! I don’t ever want it to be said that Snowflake8 runs around with a circus of degenerates