(Closed) A Lesson in RSVP

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Don’t assume that people who don’t send the card back won’t show up. There are people who don’t reply and either count on the follow up call to confirm they are coming or are the “of course we are coming, you didn’t need the card to know we are coming” type.

Definitely follow up with people who added an uninvited guest. Don’t feel bad, they are the ones who have done something wrong/rude.

You don’t want a wedding day surprise of extra guests.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Those are good lessons. It’s easy to invite too many people and assume they won’t all come, but if they do, you need a backup plan.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh man I did the same! I did courtesy invites and they all said yes!!!!! And Fiance decided to invite people after we agreed on a locked number and so far they all said yes as well! I so feel like crying cuz my limit was 75 and so far 80 guest said yes and we have 6 more guest who havent responed all courtesy invites.. Ughhhhhhh …I’m hoping since my venue is far and on a Friday some guest don’t show up…I guess that’s what I get for being to nice with the invites:/

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I did the same =/  I haven’t sent out invites yet, but I sent Save-The-Date Cards to too many people.  Now, I’m praying they don’t all show up.  I am hoping that it all works out.  So far, FI’s aunt and uncle have said they probably won’t come because his uncle has a “hemorrhoid”.  Some excuse, but hey, I’m not mad!  Need to nix 14 more people, at least.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would tell the people who RSVP’d with extra guests that you just can’t accomodate that at this time. Also, I would be careful…I would assume that everyone who didn’t RSVP will show up!!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@nicolejoshwed:  Don’t worry just yet, the first few weeks 100% of my RSVPs were acceptances and I was worried too.  But ALL of the declines came in the last week to 10 days before the due date.  And everyone we had to follow-up with were also declines.  My guess is that people who are on the fence about coming wait until the last minute to send their response, and people who know they aren’t coming seem to forget to send it back at all. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@nicolejoshwed:  good idea to say we reserved ___ seats in your honor, we already printed our RSVPs how would we incorporate that?? any ideas??….. As we already have somebody wanting to bring 2 extra people whos names were not on the Save The Date envelope we mailed out and who we were not planning on inviting! 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@nicolejoshwed:  I wonder how many people are going to show up at the wrong venue? Priceless!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater

We did the __ of ___ attending, and we filled in the second line. I felt kind of like a jerk doing it but it got the point across of how many people were actually invited. We have gotten mostly yes responses so far

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh my gosh, great points! We were supposed to send courtesy invites to a few people as well, maybe we should re-think that. (Also, I will not be sending Save-The-Date Cards to anyone getting a courtesy invite…)

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ah crap. I hope this doesn’t happen to me. I wanted a wedding of around 50 people but we both have large extended families so we did a lot of courtesy STDS. crap… lol. Well my wedding is on a Wednesday and out of town for most guests, so hopefully I won’t get stuck!

 

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