Post # 1
So, I’ve been painstakingly working on my guest list for our wedding. I come from a small town and so does my future hubby…which means that everyone from our hometowns expect to be invited! I’m sure other small-town gals can relate. With that said, I’ve always known that I would have a big wedding with plenty of celebratory guests–but how big is too big? Well, our budget says that over 300 guests total for dinner is too big! With that new information fresh in my mind, I’ve taken to whittling down the one big guest list into 3 smaller guest lists. A=invited to ceremony, cocktails, and reception; B=invited to cocktails and reception; C=invited to reception only. Now please don’t get the wrong idea, I am not attempting to make my guests feel invalued by placing them on a list called “c” (flashback to junior varsity basketball…) afterall, we do have a banging band hired to play from 9pm-1am with free beer and soda. But what do you think….should I just cut the guest list down to one smaller all-inclusive list, or risk making guests feel “lesser” by inviting them to only certain aspects of our wedding?
Post # 4
In my opinion, no guests should only be invited to part of your celebration. If I were you, I’d whittle down your guest list to a number that works for everything — ceremony, cocktails, and reception.
Post # 5
yes, you should cut down to have an all inclusive wedding where evereyone is invited to everything.
Post # 6
As a guest I would feel second (or third) best compared to other guests if I was only invited to a certain part of your big day. I’d try to find a way to cut down the guest list and invite only those people to the whole wedding. It’s only fair.
Post # 7
I think twolists would be good (that’s what we are doing) one for all-inclusive and one for reception only. Mr. Repost and I saw some great “crash our wedding” invites and thought that would work for us. So, we have our “A-list” and our “Crash list” the crashers get a different invitation with no RSVP needed, and it actually says “come crash our wedding starting at 8pm” (ceremony is at 4:20) the crashers are people like cousins, co-workers, 2nd and 3rd circle friends, neighbors…..
It’s perfect for us, as we had to whittle down our list when we decided to have our party in Papa RP’s yard! 🙂
Also, on our RSVP we have 3boxes: attending the whole she-bang/i don’t do ceremonies but i’ll come to party/devastated we can’t come. this way we know how many chairs we need at the chapel 🙂