(Closed) A list, B list invites, when to mail?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

Hmmm…the invites are supposed to go out a 4-6 weeks before the wedding, so I guess you could move your deadline for A-list guests to respond by back a few weeks to let the B-list guests have the time to respond. I don’t know what the dates should be, but it’ll look like this..

A-list mailed

B-list mailed if A-list send with regrets

A-list deadline

B-list mailed if A-list send with regrets

B-list deadline


Post # 4
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Most etiquette books/sites say invitations can go out as early as eight weeks, no later than four weeks prior to the event.  So if you send your initial list right about eight weeks, ask for RSVP 2-3 weeks later, you should have just enough time to get your B-list invites out at four weeks and maybe they will never know they weren’t A-list!

Post # 6
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

our timeline is:

a-list: 8 weeks before the wedding

b-list: 6 weeks before the wedding (i really don’t want people finding out that they were on the b-list!)

RSVP: 4 weeks before the wedding

however, we just sent out our save the dates, and we’ll be calling people now to ask them whether or not they can make it so that we can get a better idea of our count. we’ll still send them an invite, but we’ll give them a follow up call about 2 weeks after they get the invite ("i know you said previously that you wouldn’t be able to come, and we just wanted to confirm that your plans hadn’t changed.") so that we can start doing the b-listers on a rolling basis (as we get declines from the a-list, we’ll invite the b-list). i’ve also instructed my mom to have her b-list in preference order so those invites can go out smoothly.

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