posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Be sure you love the small venue more then the idea of having all your family and friend because to me if I couldn’t invite everyone there would be no way I’d pick a small venue that left me feeling I couldn’t invite so done I really wanted there based on space. I am just to close to my family and friends…. But in the end it is your day. Good luck!

Post # 4
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@texmax: I think an A list and B list is fine. You just need to make sure the A list has an earlier RSVP deadline to allow time to mail the B list invites and have them RSVP without them knowing they are “B list”.

One thing to think about though is that some people may be very offended to be invited to the reception only and not be “important enough” to be invited to the ceremony.

As for the guest issue, you can just put on the invite “We have reserved 1 seat in your honor. __ of 1 will attend” so it is very clear you are only inviting ONE person.

Post # 6
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re doing the A-list, B-list, except it’s really more an Out of Town v. In-Town.  Since a lot of my college friends and family are Out of Town (and I think it’s unlikely that they’ll come, but want to send an invite anyway) we’re inviting them with an RSVP date about a month and a half before the wedding.  As the ‘no’s come in, we’ll figure out how many in-town friends we can invite and give them an RSVP date of three weeks before.  At least I think that’s how we’re making it work!

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