(Closed) A List, B List…argh. Invitation quandry, please help!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Unfortunately, I think its a yes. If I were in their shoes, that is what I would think.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, this is a complicated question. As they are your friends, asking them for their addresses could be a routine thing to complete your address book. But if you mentioned you were collecting it for the wedding, it would raise expectations. And although it will be disappointing if someone doesn’t get an invite, they are not invited until you send them an invitation (or STD/ phone call).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i wouldn’t necessarily think i was getting an invite.  people send out wedding annoucements don’t they? thats always a possibility.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it might hint towards STD/invite, but they’re not invited until they get that in the mail. It could have been for wedding announcements, holiday cards, etc.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@cruzan1978: Mmm yes, but your asking could be for an evening invite…..

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@lefeymw:

Agreed

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

It would definitely make me feel like I was going to get an invite. You could always send them an announcement but I wonder how well that would go over. Are you pretty sure that the extended family would come if invited?

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

When you asked for their address did you say it was for a wedding invite? Because if so then yes they would be expecting an invite.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t usually remember when someone asks for my address. I occasionaly get an invitation and think, “how on earth did they get my address?” oh duh, I gave it to them.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think asking for addresses is a very strong hint that an invitation is coming.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

it is a hint that an invite is comming, but you are not invited until you get the invitation. You said they are extended family that Fiance is not really close to so maybe they wont take not getting invtited too hard. You said they were never at family functions so maybe they would not have come anyway.

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