- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I don’t usually blog. On occasion though, something happens in my life that makes me want to write and I’m left with no outlet. So here I am, the week of my wedding, with a bajillion thoughts clogging my brain space. Brides to be, read them if you’d like, or not:)
* You did an amazing job making sure there was nothing left until the last minute. There are still dozens of last minute things to do.
I don’t know how this happened but it did. Maybe it’s just the business practices of wedding industry vendors or the unavoidable list of things that can’t be addressed until the week of the wedding. I’m not sure, but man is it mentally exhausting! I’m confirming (again), writing checks, printing things, emailing people, tying bows, stuffing bags and making drop offs. I’m all over the place.
* Last minute details might be better because you just don’t give a shizz anymore.
Q. What size do you want the table cards? A. Don’t care, just make sure they’re in english. True story. At this point I am so excited and anxious for the big day to get here that I don’t care what happens to anything but my groom. I only have enough purple ribbon to tie bows on like 10 programs and Duane Reade on my lunch break provided no reasonable alternatives… F it.
* You may get so excited the week of your wedding that you can’t eat.
This has literally NEVER happened to me before. I can eat with the best of em, but lately I’m just not hungry!! Though my “get back in shape” crusade started long before any diet or exercise targeted specifically to my wedding (see: juice cleanse after the holidays), I’ve been more successful in the past 2 weeks than the 3 months preceding combined. I skipped dinner the other night bc I just wasn’t hungry for it. Whaaaat!???
*You are definitely going to be obsessed with the weather forecast.
If they’re saying it will be sunny you will trust them like no other, if they’re saying it will rain you’ll be ambivalent, “they never get it right anyway”. I promised I wouldn’t care about the weather. In truth I don’t even need a sunny day for all to go off without a hitch, the indoor options might actually be more gorgeous than the outdoor at my venue. But it’s a sickness… I check weather.com and accuweather.com at least once per day. Today it says sunny- those folks are geniuses.
* Your parents don’t want to let you go. They mean well, but they might have a funny way of showing it.
My Dad has morphed into an all out maniac. He has gone rogue, refusing to comply with day of time lines, saying he shouldn’t have to be a team player, saying his needs are more important than helping take care of my grandparents. Full on crazy. I was unprepared for the misplaced emotions my parents would feel. I forgot that this is a pretty huge moment for them too. And both parents are wearing it quite differently- my mom and I are closer than ever, bonding over vendor meetings and hotel bag contents and I’m ready to push Dad off a cliff (where he’ll land with only his ego bruised, still picture perfect for the big day)
* It’s extremely painful to write big checks.
Chances are, your wedding is the most expensive “single” item you have ever invested in. It doesn’t matter where the money is coming from (your wallet, your parents’ wallet, savings earmarked specifically for this occasion) writing a huge check is a big moment in your relationship and it’s terrifying. Go ahead, add another zero to that number, it will be ok…
* You really will be overwhelmingly happy and in love.
My fiance and I can’t stop smiling at one another. Our cheese factor has hit an all time high and we just keep going back for more! Snuggling? Awesome. Dance parties in the living room? Sure, why not!? Lovey dovey mid-day emails, 2 today and counting. If you manage not to become a crazy person (yay!) this can feel like the best moment ever. Every week should be the week before your wedding.