Post # 1
When deciding – and you get stuck on a person – would you just put them on the B list because you sit and wodner about it for so long? Or do you think that would be an indicator for the A list…???
This part sucks….LOL.
Post # 3
People I had to really wonder about I put on my B-list. Once you get all of the names on the A list that are absolutely A list, and if you still have room, go back through your B and upgrade people as you see fit.
We have a space that will hold 200 people max and would be most comfortable at 175. I invited about 225-230 people and began freaking out that we’d have too many people as RSVPs started rolling in. But you always get surprised…a bunch of people who I was sure would be coming are not for various reasons, etc. When all was said and done we only had about 150 coming! So we called some B listers that never made it off the B list and invited them. Even though it’s 14 days away we’ve had a great response (no one was mad that they didn’t get invited…everyone has been very understanding) and if they were free that weekend, most gladly accepted the late invitation. We’re going to have about 160 or so now, which will be a perfect number for our venue.
My point? Yes, the B list sucks. But it all tends to work itself out in the end…
Post # 4
We’re only inviting the exact number of people we can fit in the venue (120 + 15 in the adjacent "kids room"). We think that because we are having a "smaller" wedding we won’t get as many regrets. That way as we get regrets we can send B lists invites as the regrets come in in groups. I’ve heard that you get most of your regrets right away.
That way you don’t have the "why am I only getting this invite two weeks ahead of time?" problem. Just send out your invites a little earlier — say a full eight weeks instead of six or whatever.
Anyway, just another perspective.