(Closed) A Little Bit of Wedding Invitation Drama…

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did you discuss having an inner envelope with her?  More and more the use of an inner envelope isn’t required, depending on the formality of the event.  Did you have specific written directions for her when she was doing the invitiations?  Did you see a proof before she sent them?

If you didn’t make sure you got to approve the invitations before they were sent out, then you’re like of at a loss.  I understand the need for having a coordiantor handle some of these tasks, but at the same time, it is your wedding and you should still be actively involved.  If you did have procedures that she didn’t follow, then you could ask to be reimbursed for the cost of sending them since she didn’t follow the agreed-upon directions.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

To be honest, I think the blame falls on you here for not approving the final invitation. I would never in a million years just pass of something to my coordinator without approving final details. Sorry! I don’t think there’s much you can do now, but if you did not explicitly tell her “I want an inner envelope and this and that” then it’s kinda your fault. Make sure for the next month she comes to you with plans before finalizing anything!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mehhh – inner envelopes are certainly not required.  I’d say only about a third of the weddings I’ve been invited to have had them, and none in the last year have. They also cost quite a bit extra, so this is something you should have checked on when you ordered the invite package.

Even then, why didn’t you look at the package when it arrived and approve it before telling her to send them out?  She followed your directions by sending out the invites when they arrived.  The thing about hiring other people to do this kind of thing for you is that you either need to be explicitly clear and detailed in your directions and confirm/approve everything before its finalized, OR, accept that another person will not have the exact same vision as you, and that things will not be exactly as you hoped as a result.

I think firing her over this, which – sorry, is mostly on you, would be a dramatic overreaction, especially if she’s done satisfactory work otherwise.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AmandaLP:  ahhhh – totally different story then. So there’s just a bundle of unused envelopes and inserts sitting around on her desk somewhere??  Thats bad.  I would ask her for a breakdown of her fees, either by hour or by task, and then have her refund or not charge you for any time involving the invites, and for the materials that were wasted.

Post # 8
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@AmandaLP:  Oooh I see.. I’d be PISSED then! I guess it’s too late to fire her, but I’d ask for some compensation or a reduction in her pay for that blooper. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@AmandaLP:  These are Wilton invitations, a cheap (but decent quality) printable invite that you can buy in craft stores.  I got the matching trifold program on Amazon, so I recognize the design.

If you asked & paid for inner envelopes and inserts, you have every right to be angry.  It looks like she got the cheapest option that she could quickly print, and possibly ran out of time to have you approve them.  The invite itself isn’t bad, but there are matching insert cards that she could have purchased and personalized.

If I was in your position, I would start shopping around for day of coordinators and see if anyone is available on your date.  In the mean time, I would express disappointment with the invites- simply put, you paid for a service that you did not recieve and it should be taken out of your balance.  If a DOC is available, I would fire the coordinator- if she can’t make a deadline for an invite, I would be nervous about the wedding day timeline.  If no one else is still open, I would have a serious talk with the coordinator and let her know what your expectations are for the next month.  Try not to get angry with her, but definitely lay out exactly what you want.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think the fact that she messed up needs to be addressed….and luckily she is taking the professional approach and offering to re-do them…but, we don’t plan on sending out extra envelopes…waste of money and paper!

Post # 12
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

YEa thats no good. And Its never too late to fire if need be because there are month of wedding weekend coordinators who will gladly step up to the challenge

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