(Closed) A little bit personal *blush*

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Girls are very very unlikely to orgasm from penetration alone.  When you are having sex, try touching yourself to get yourself to orgasm.  You might need to use toys like a vibrator or a vibrating cock ring.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Try out different positions to see what works for you. Two popular ones are girl on top and girl on bottom with pillow under bum. Also, don’t be afraid to erm, take matters into your own hands (or ask him to) while you’re doin’ the deed. πŸ™‚ I think a lot of it is mental and once it happens once its easier to get there again.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Everyone is different… but the best part is that the only way to solve this problem is practice, practice, practice! πŸ™‚ But without the goal in mind, of course.  Just don’t be afraid to speak up if you’re finding something that works – this is a good time to be a lil’ selfish.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

For the majority of women, it’s impossible to have an orgasm by intercourse only without other stimulation. While intercourse is exciting and feels good, don’t worry if it doesn’t bring you “there” by itself; it might never happen.
It never did for me, but I do achieve orgasm with my husband every single time bc of other type of stimulation before and during intercourse and I am not dissatisfied with our sex life…
I think all the pornography and magazines and media make us think that vaginal orgasm are the norm, while it’s actually quite rare and we shouldn’t expect it.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think only 30% of women can do that….kudos for them!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

ya, it’s not always vaginal.  also, if you’ve not done it before you may want to get comfortable with yourself. You find where it’s good and then you can direct him from there.  He will not know unless you help him get to the fountain

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We had this discussion during a girls only slumber party in college, and I used to have the cutest photo of my one friend demonstrating the “DS reach around” approach on another girl.  Awww, I miss that photo=)

Yes, most people need clitoral stimulation.  My old roommate dated a guy who gave her a book of the 3 types of female orgasm: clitoral, Gspot (whcih can be very hard to find) and anal.  Yes, he was a big fan of rimjobs, so he thought if he offered to give perhaps he’d receive.  She opted instead to get back together with her ex.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’ve never had an orgasm from just intercourse, it always takes some other type of stimulation from either myself, or my Fiance. I found that once I had an orgasm once it was much easier to achieve again. I think I wasn’t as worried or anxious thinking something was wrong with me. I just have to remember to relax and not worry about if it’ll happen of if I’ll look sexy while it’s happening ( :

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

A LOT of foreplay…like oral for 30 minutes….then when you feel it coming…commence…that’s the only thing that works for me. Usually you have to talk to the guy for a while and be really open and honest. As long as you are a giver, then he has NOTHING to complain about, so don’t let him tell you it’s too hard.

no pun intended.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

<—seconds the reach around if he can pull it off.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I also find…if he gives me a long foot and back rub before…it helps me a lot. i think it’s because i’m more relaxed and have more time to become aroused. maybe it also helps with blood flow?

but seriously, i LOVE to have my skin touched all over and being naked with him but not FOR him is really hot to me.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

oh…one more thing…for the massage, i have him use a lotion that i think smells sexy.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/

 

 

haha. ok last thing…try kama sutra, cosmo-style. click the link above and then go to sex & love, then to positions. Great advice there! Helped me a ton!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Start thinking about making love an hour before you would actually do it. Think about how it feels, picture making love to your husband in your mind, all the things you like him doing. By the time you make love, you will already be excited and turned on. Maybe it will make it easier for you to have an orgasm.

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