(Closed) A little bummed

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You are definitely NOT alone! My Fiance and I were together for five years before he proposed – friends of ours had met, dated, gotten engaged, gotten married, and had kids within that time. It’s hard not to feel bummed that it’s not you, you know?

March will be here before you know it, and in the meantime, the Bees are here for you!

Merry Christmas!

Post # 4
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Merry Christmas! 

I think it is ok to feel this way – it is part of human nature. What will make it wrong – is taking it out on him or letting this “green monster” live rent free in yor heart & head. Yes, everyone around you is moving on in some way or another. around you, but so are you. Look back a year ago, look back 2 years ago…I’m sure you and you Boyfriend or Best Friend has come leaps and bounds.

Edited to add: Oh and to add what PP said, yes my Fiance & I were together also about 5 or actually closer to 6 yrs, before he proposed and I never got a timeline at all…I did spend last xmas in my bathroom crying because I swore I was getting a ring. I didn’t (I can’t even remember what I did get – but let me tell you there was NO lil box under that damn tree) and when I finally came out of the bathroom I tried REALLY HARD (failed though) not to mention it to him.

 

Post # 5
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

LOL – I just realized a new acronym…ETA is Edited To Add…My silly butt kept reading – Estimated To Arrive (like the airlines)…whoo…

Post # 6
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

 @purpledaisies:  Here’s how you can look at it in a positive light….by not getting engaged on Christmas, you have something to look forward to and March is really not far away at all! Plus, I got enaged on Christmas, and now no Christmas now will ever live up to that for me. When Darling Husband asked me what I wanted this year, it was to get engaged again!

Plus, as you’ve already said, you shouldn’t compare yourself with the timelines of other realtionships. I had friends wait years and years and now that they’re married, it doesn’t matter how long they waited for it to happen!

Post # 7
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191 posts
Blushing bee

@purpledaisies:  Don’t feel bummed, March is just around the corner. like you said, “I have a good life with a good man and I know that.” so don’t worry, your time is coming and soon. 

But, I do understand “the green eyed monster”. I’m currently helping my friend plan her June wedding. Im in the wedding as well, then my oldest sister (who just got married at the court house last year) is ready to plan for a ceremony for March 2014. so I will be helping her start planing after the holidays. I get the feeling too, but I know when my time comes they will be over the moon for me.

Post # 9
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934 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know – it is hard. I was in your position last Christmas. Even though you know it is right around the corner, you can’t help but feel a little sad today. But come March, you are going to be soooo happy!

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