Post # 1
Hello lovely bees,
Well, it’s almost christmas, and it seems like every time I go onto facebook the last few days (weeks?) that another friend of mine has gotten engaged…and now it’s starting to be my younger brother’s friends, too. Also, I just finished my first semester of grad school, and man-friend and I agreed, when we decided to go back to school, that we’d start thinking about engagement once the first semester was done. Well, after a shared bottle of wine last night, he told me that he wants to wait at least 6 months AFTER he finishes grad school (anticipated graduation date Feb 2011). And to try to cheer me up, he said that by that point, everyone else will have already gotten engaged/married, so I would be the only one of my friends who will be engaged at the time…..which makes me feel worse, actually. I’m feeling very frustrated – I don’t understand why we must wait so long! When we talk about it, he says he would marry me tomorrow if we could, but it’s just “not the right time.” I’m afraid it’ll never be the right time! =( I have always dreamed of getting engaged on my 25th birthday, but since thats in two months, it doesn’t look like it’ll happen.
Post # 3
I’m sorry that you are bummed out. I’m sure that it will happen before you know it. Even if it isn’t before your 25th birthday, it is still going to be wonderful! Life plans are made to be broken!
Post # 5
Hugs emily… I’m feeling the same way too these days
Post # 6
((HUGS)) trust me we’re all feeling it….
Post # 7
<p style=”padding-left: 30px;”>I’m so sorry to hear that but i truly understand. I’m going to be about 31 before i get engaged.I think they(men) dont understand that it doesnt have to be the perfect time or need a the perfect ring. Dont worry sweety it will happen.
Post # 8
He’s probably saying that because everything is so busy with grad school…I would give him some time and maybe another semester, then bring it up again. I’m not sure why he’d want to wait 6 months after graduation just to get engaged, but maybe you can compromise that you’ll be married by 6 months after he graduates! 🙂 When I started grad school my fiance and I had already been together for 4 years and I told him there was no way I wanted to get married anytime soon. Now I can’t wait to get married! I think the pressures of school are probably just gettin to him.
Post # 9
Hugs! I’m with you there :(. I love this time of year, but it seems to make the waiting even harder, especially since I know I’ll be waiting for a long time and Christmas/New Year’s is such a common time for engagements. Plus with all the family time, there’s so many questions of “are you engaged yet” and “gosh, how long has it been for you guys” to face.
Post # 10
I’m totally there with you!! I can’t imagine if my Boyfriend or Best Friend actually had the nerver to tell me it would be better to wait longer to get engaged BECAUSE we’d be last! Hang in there. I get not being the right time, but maybe there’s some room to negotiate? I hope there’s goos solution!
Post # 11
He may just be telling you that to to throw you off….my fiance was adamant that he would not be able to propose until he finished medical school/started residency; it made since because he was a student = no salary….BUT he proposed the summer before his last yr of med school and had in fact purchased the ring a full 7 months before he popped the question…..so you never know:-)
Post # 12
Ya never know, a lot can change in that amount of time. Sending positive thoughts your way!