Post # 1
Hi Bee’s – here’s my situation.
My husband was insistant that he picked out my ring without my input. I reluctantly agreed, and low and behold he blew me away with what he picked out. I LOVE IT. it’s beautiful and absolutely perfect. I couldn’t have done better myself 😉
I have always been a firm believer in having a wedding band. After we were engaged we shopped and shopped but didnt find anything that would be a good compliment. The ring itself is big, lots of glitter. But it’s not the addition of more diamonds that I want, its just the solidification I feel from a wedding band. We had our rings blessed at our ceremony which was also very important to me. My husband gets kind of upset when I talk about still wanting a band with it. He already told me that he didnt even think that I would need a wedding band…I dont want him to feel bad, or think that I am unhappy with my ring. I just don’t think he understands the importance of it. Should I give up on this? I know we will probably have to get a custom band, and I want to wear the band with my ring. This isnt supposed to be a separate commodity.
…married for 6mo now and when I look at my finger I still feel engaged….help me make sense of this nonsense!
Post # 3
You’ve explained this and he still gets upset? I totally get where you are coming from and I would want the band with my ring, too. Even if it’s simple and doesn’t have diamonds.
Could you potentially get one for your one year anniversary?
Post # 4
Wow that’s a stunner! I would get a very simple thin band to wear with it, or switch to my right and get a diamond band for the left. He did a great job though!
Post # 5
I just think in his mind he’s proud of what he gave me, and he doesn’t see why I would need anything else. I know he’d get me a band but I feel like it would take away some of the nostalgia he feels for the ring I wear now… 1 ring = married. Not in many girls worlds..! Ha. 1 year anniversary idea could make it special for sure. Great idea.
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Post # 7
I think a thin band (2mm?) would be lovely with you’re sparkler!
Post # 8
@Cupcake2012: I like that idea!
Post # 9
yeah I’d pair it with a thin plain white gold band. A diamond band might blend in too much and make it look lopsided if that makes sense. 🙂
Post # 10
You could even do a 1-2mm rose gold band to make it stand out from your e-ring!
Post # 11
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: That’s what I was going to suggest! Love it! I bet it would look great! Something simple and meaningful like that would really compliment it.
Post # 12
I’ve got a sneaky suggestion. You could tell him you love your ring, and there are days where you’re doing work or going places where you don’t want to damage it, and want a plain band so you don’t have to worry about hurting your wonderful ring. Then you can ease into wearing them together, and he probably won’t notice.
Post # 14
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: A gold band is a nice idea!
I think it’s nice that your husband felt so strongly about picking out the ring himself but maybe you should delicately remind him that this is about you as well. You have fantasies and expectations too! Or tell him that people are always asking you “when’s the wedding” because you dont have a wedding band!