- 8 years ago
Although I’m still a newbie, I love the support and help you guys post.. so I figured I’d try getting your opinions!
My SI and I have been together a little over 3 years and are going to be engaged soon . I kept having a feeling it was going to be this Christmas… and sure enough I guessed it! I didn’t want to ruin the “surprise” so I told him when I thought it was, and I could tell by his face that I was right! Needless to say… he moved the date.
Around the same time, my family decided they wanted to go on a family vacation. We would leave Christmas day . My SI couldn’t go because of work, my brother and his serious girlfriend are going, and obviously my mom and dad. My dad and I haven’t spoken in over a year, but usually it works out fine, because my mom and I are so close. Although, sometimes it gets annoying due to her trying to split the time/attention between him and I. (How mature, right?) Well anyway, I was kinda bummed, but I knew the proposal wasn’t going to be on Christmas anyway, so I agreed to go with everyone. Flights are booked and we are ready to go. However, I didn’t realize we weren’t returning until January 1st.
So… I’m not going to be home for Christmas, I’m missing my SI’s birthday on the 30th, and I’m missing New Years eve with my SI.
When I broke the news to him about the dates, he froze and went” WHAT? You’re not going to be here on New Years Eve… Oh my gosh”. This and a few other things gave it away that this was going to be the proposal date.
So… now I have the option of going on an akward family vacation on the other side of the country and missing 3 holidays with my SI (who was supposed to propose within this time frame) OR staying home, without my family for the first time on Christmas and them missing the proposal.
I realize this might sound ungrateful for what I have, and I’m truly grateful to have the opportunity to go on vacation with my family, but it falls on such horrible timing, and not to mention my family and I aren’t in peachy keen condition either.
I don’t know what I should do or if I’m just being selfish. Any advice?