(Closed) A little hurt and disrespected by a Groosman (FI's BFF)

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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FutureMrsHouy:  If I were in your situation, I wouldn’t even be handling it as well as you are. I pretty much have a zero tolerance policy for people acting like this, ESPECIALLY if they’ve referred to me as a “bitch” in any way! That’s completely uncalled for. In this situation, between my Fiance and I, the bachelor weekend would be off completely. He would agree to that and would probably suggest it to spare the drama, but that’s definitely how it would go. Someone who will be that disrespectful to me is not someone I trust to be hauling my Fiance around town in a possibly compromised state.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MKWeddingBee.
Post # 18
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Busy bee

 

FutureMrsHouy:  When did these parties turn into DAYS long parties? I honestly no not get it. What is SO important that they have to start Thursday? His friend sounds like a tool. I am sure he is unmarried or even seeing one for that matter because if he was I doubt he would be acting this way. At least your Fiance is on your side with this. Do you know what they are even doing? Good luck, I would have freaked!

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper

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FutureMrsHouy:  Why are you mad at your FI?  It sounds like he was standing up for you and agreeing with you?  I would just cool off, apologize to your Fiance, he’s on your side.  Your problem is with his Bridesmaid or Best Man, not your Fiance.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

This Groomsmen sounds like a child. I hope your Fiance put him in his place after he called you that. How awful. 

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper

You were not overreacting at all. In fact, I’d be livid at the total disrespect being shown by BFF, but more to the point at the relatively passive way Fiance seems to have handled it. H has no friends capable of ever behaving this way, so it’s impossible to relate,  but if anyone had ever had the nerve to not only rudely try to change and impose on family plans made well in advance, and call me a bitch for not bowing down to his repeated,  outrageous demands, I can promise that he would not only be an ex-groomsman and ex-guest, he’d be an ex friend.  Was he drunk or something?  I have no doubt H would also have cancelled the weekend plans unless this guy either came to his senses fast and did a lot of making up and explaining, or he dropped out.

Fiance should have told the friend that you saw the text, and demanded that he apologize to you immediately. He  should have stood up in no  uncertain terms to this guy and if he was unwilling or incapable to do that, things would get real. I also agree that Fiance should have made it clear that they were being rude and disrespecting plans that were important to him as well as to you. 

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