- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
FutureMrsHouy: When did these parties turn into DAYS long parties? I honestly no not get it. What is SO important that they have to start Thursday? His friend sounds like a tool. I am sure he is unmarried or even seeing one for that matter because if he was I doubt he would be acting this way. At least your Fiance is on your side with this. Do you know what they are even doing? Good luck, I would have freaked!
This Groomsmen sounds like a child. I hope your Fiance put him in his place after he called you that. How awful.
RobbieAndJuliahaha: Thank you, I have no problem with the party itself, how long it is or anything like that because i know and trust my Fiance. WHat my Fiance and I are mad about is the initial “does he really need to be there…. I know the party starts Friday but we’ve changed the plans he needs to skip your meeting”
dances123: The Bitch part is what sent me over the top. I heard Fiance on the phone with him saying no one is forcing me to attend any meeting but it’s for OUR wedding and it’s important. for reference I am 34 and Fiance is 30 his friends are 28-30 (and yes single)
beerandcupcakes: He has text and told them over the phone he will nto be available until Friday and they are still ignoring it.
babeba: I am fine with him leaving afterwards but FI does want to spent some qaulity time together befor he leaves for the long weekend
Just to clarify to everyone, I’m not mad at Fiance but to add all of this nonsense into a very stressful work week when i get man I kinda shut down so i don’t saysomething i can’t take back. (he knows this, if i come home from work stressed and i’m quiet he just let’s me be until I’m ready to talk)
Me staying with my mom is not me throwing a “hissy fit” it’s so I don’t have to deal with the frat party at my house when we get done with the meeting because 1) i know they will be there waiting for him and 2) I will blow up at BFF and not be sorry
ETA: I’d rather stay ay my moms and get a good nights sleep than be woken up at 3/4am or some ridiculous time when i have to be at work at 7am
You were not overreacting at all. In fact, I’d be livid at the total disrespect being shown by BFF, but more to the point at the relatively passive way Fiance seems to have handled it. H has no friends capable of ever behaving this way, so it’s impossible to relate, but if anyone had ever had the nerve to not only rudely try to change and impose on family plans made well in advance, and call me a bitch for not bowing down to his repeated, outrageous demands, I can promise that he would not only be an ex-groomsman and ex-guest, he’d be an ex friend. Was he drunk or something? I have no doubt H would also have cancelled the weekend plans unless this guy either came to his senses fast and did a lot of making up and explaining, or he dropped out.
Fiance should have told the friend that you saw the text, and demanded that he apologize to you immediately. He should have stood up in no uncertain terms to this guy and if he was unwilling or incapable to do that, things would get real. I also agree that Fiance should have made it clear that they were being rude and disrespecting plans that were important to him as well as to you.
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