(Closed) A little hurt

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Did you ask directly for their addresses?  

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I would give them a call rather than doing it through Facebook, if possible.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How long ago did you send the messages?  I know that when I check facebook on my phone, I don’t get my messages.  Also, some people never check their notifications.  Like ever.  Is there another way you could contact them?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

It could be that they saw the message and just haven’t had a chance to reply yet– I know for me, I check my FB all the time on my phone– but typing anything other than a quick status update takes forever so I’ll often leave messages and things until later… and I often forget about them… 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

I would be a little hurt too. However, playing devils advocate here, they could be a little weirded out that you even want to invite them? You said that you are terrible at keeping in touch with people, and that probably hurt them that you never tried to maintain a friendship and years later are reaching out to them. Either way, it sucks to lose a friendship.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hold on.  I still want to know how long it’s been since you sent the messages!  Stop panicking!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@jackndiane:  I wouldn’t get upset yet, I know I am terrible at responding to facebook messages. Even when I’m on facebook its not like email where I respond quickly.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

A phone call is personal, shows you took the time to think about them and dedicate your attention 100% to them for at least a few minutes, and shows that you made more than the minimum of effort to contact them.

Online, people are often doing a million things at once. They may have seen your message but, as PP’s mentioned, they may have been in a hurry, been doing other things, gotten distracted, etc. – which is understandable because your wedding is extremely important to you, but extremely peripheral to them, especially if you’ve lost touch. If you go to the trouble of making a phone call, even if you just leave a voice mail, at least it shows that they, individually, matter enough to you that you are seeking them out because you want to include them. I wouldn’t worry about it seeming stalkerish. Just be light and friendly on the phone and don’t grunt and breathe heavily into it when you’re speaking. Tongue Out

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Two days…which were Saturday and Sunday?  Give it another day before you do anything else.  STOP STALKING THEM ON FACEBOOK!! (I mean that nicely and jokingly).  Laughing

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