(Closed) A little less than 6 months until the wedding and I'm just over it all!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@SweetHoneyBee:  that sounds like a really **** time. Very little support from the people who matter to you is always hard, the wedding you’ve described sounds wonderful, and with 6 months left you have time to pull it all together. You can do it! Fiance sounds helpful??

I can tell you this, it’s certainly sounds very different from my wedding plans. I bet that when it all comes together, they’ll eat their words, the lot of them. It will be a fantastic day!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ah, sorry to hear it’s become a lot less fun for you. It sounds like everyone in your life has something to say about your planning, huh?

First things first, get some rest! Everything seems so much more dramatic and dire when we’re tired, you know?

Second, put some distance between people who stress you out badly for now. This includes your Mother-In-Law and your sister. I’ve done this with my own sister lately and it’s been for the best (even though we’re quite close). 

This may not be for you, but we’ve made the decision to not fuss over wedding stuff. Also, has been for the best!

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m so sorry you are having to deal with all of these non-supportive people.  For whatever reason, I think parents are just stuck in the “traditional” aspect of things.  There have been a few things that I’ve had to explain to my parents that it’s “the norm” now, but they don’t fight or make rude comments over it like that.

It sounds like your Fiance is very supportive, and it is y’alls day, it should be how you want it to be.  I haven’t gone dress shopping for my BMs yet because one of them was TTC so I wanted to wait, but if all they had to spend was $32, they’d probably be happy as hell!! 

That really sucks about the people you hired to play music! I’d definitely figure out a way to track them down.  I hope you have a contract in writing or a receipt showing you put down a deposit, because if you can’t locate these people you can always take legal action.

My advice is to get some rest.  If planning is too stressful right now, take a week or so off.  Talk to your family and your FI’s family and tell them how you honestly feel.  People who love you shouldn’t go out of their way to make this whole process hell for you. Your wedding sounds like it will be beautiful!! Hang in there, summer will be over before you know it!! 

Post # 6
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1159 posts
Bumble bee

My advice is to take a week out from planning all together. Ban wedding talk for a whole week. You still have 6 months.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I was also at a point where I didn’t want anything to do with the wedding anymore. It was a little later than 6 months, but I felt similar to you. Everyone always nagged and complained or had better ideas. At one point I didn’t even want to tell them about any progress anymore. My then fiance though never got sick of planning (he indeed planned more than me ;))

HOWEVER, at one point I got over this feeling of being sick of planning. When it got closer and closer to the actual date, I got really excited again and was just looking forward to getting married. 6 months is still far away, I am sure you will feel similar, especially since you apparently have already figured most things out. Just try to not let your family pull you down, but honestly there will always be naggers:)

Good luck!

Post # 8
Hostess
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Girl, I TOTALLY feel you. I got to this point and you know what Fiance and I decided? We’re eloping! May 3, on the coast, just us. Then instead of wedding invitations we’re going to send out elopement announcements. Of course, that isn’t the option for everyone, but it was for us. 

I’d take a week or two off from planning. Go on a nice weekend away with Fiance somewhere and shut everything off (computers, cell phones, tablet, etc). Just relax, and enjoy your time together. Remember why are you doing all of this.  

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SweetHoneyBee:   I’m just a week past the 7 month mark and I feel the EXACT same way. This week and a half have been just so difficult for me, wedding-planning-wise. I just feel like throwing in the towel and like you said, I’m over it. I don’t care how this wedding turns out. 

It is only my mom though. Luckily only one person has pretty much ruined this for me, as opposed to you, with so many relatives chiming in (maybe that’s still yet to come? We shall see!) 

 

@sharontobemarried:  I really like this idea. And ya know what, I might just try it!! 

Post # 11
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@SweetHoneyBee:  Hello fellow mid-September bride…! I completely understand how you feel, I’ve been through a mix of emotions regarding our wedding planning as well. What has occasionally helped is just taking a break…just like @sharontobemarried said. Not like 3 days but like, a full week or more. After taking said break, I look at my to do list again and I feel hopeful again. Been through about 3 cycles of this and am coming off another one right now…! Ready to jump back in but this last break was MUCH needed.

Good luck, we’re in this all together!!

Post # 12
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That sounds very unsupportive. Those people should see it as a privilege to be involved in YOUR special day. And never forget that. It is your day as a couple to celebrate together and begin the rest of your lives. Not anyone elses. They should be glad to be a part of it all. Also, seriously 6 months is ages. We only have a 6 month engagement start to finish so you are way ahead of us!!! 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh. Take a break. I understand how frustrating it is when your mother critiques every little thing. I’m an only child, so this is the only wedding my mom is ever going to get (in regard to children). We get along well, but she is very opinionated and has come out and said she doesn’t like certain things. Usually she’ll just straight out say it, but sometimes she does this, “ohhh. Hmm. Nice” which is almost even worse!! I can’t stand it!!

I lost 20 lbs and felt amazing when I tried my dress on. What does she say? “well.. if you lose 5 more pounds…” Umm, what?! I’m under 100 freakin’ pounds (only 4’10”) and she still finds something to complain about.

My stepdad is pretty laid back, so I haven’t heard anything from him, thankfully.

But when I gave my boss his STD his response was, “why are you doing all that?” What do you mean? “Having a wedding. Why are you bothering with that? Me and my wife just went to the courthouse. A waste of money to have a  wedding, don’t you think? I don’t like weddings or things like that. What a waste.” Seriously?

You are not alone in being done with planning, though it sounds like you have way more people to deal with. I don’t even tell my mother new ideas or plans anymore because I don’t feel like hearing her less than enthusiastic responses.

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